"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Enthusiastic while texting, bored while

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Colin O'Brien

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I've been hanging with/hooking up with this girl for a few weeks.. we really only see each other on the weekends and we chat on AIM/texting a lot. When we're texting or whatever she's usually super open and excited to chat with me, but whenever we're together (usually with her friends) she almost never opens up.. she even rejects kino sometimes!

At first I just assumed she wasn't down for me anymore but I realized that she's usually the one eager to talk and hang out with me, and I've only seen her with her friends for the past few times so I think it might even be that she's shy around them. I dunno.. what do you guys think is going on here?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Have you done anything physical with her yet (kissed/made out/etc)? Maybe she's just nervous when you're actually together.
 
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I'd go with nervousness, I'm guilty of the same thing sometimes, it's very easy to seem your excited over a text message, it's such an impersonal form of communication.
 
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When you hang out, are her friends always with you? That could be one reason for being standoff-ish. Some girls don't wanna be touchy-feely infront of their friends, and feel awkward/shy about doing such.

If she's like this when you two are alone it could be a comfort thing. You've got attraction (presumably, if you're hooking up), but comfort could be lacking. Getting the shag might be difficult before you build some comfort.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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FEar of rejection? Maybe she feels like she's being judged or something.

Anyways if I was you, I'd build an awsome fun vibe, be more extroverted and relaxed, she couldn't help it but to NOT join the fun.

It's not your job to make her have fun, but at least make your own fun, she'll join! Of course if she "isn't in the mood", whatever, you're having fun anyway, it's her loss.

But consider that you're spending time on being bored and all. What the heck? Find some other thing to do if so.

Or in these kinds of sitautions, I bet it would really help to isolate her and say something like: What's the deal here, we're not having any fun, lets just go to some other place, I bet we'd have much better moments just the two of us. :D

Something along these lines of course. But I'm not sure, I'm just saying, that's what I would do anyway.
 
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