"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Enlightening: How I ****ed up and now I hate myself

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Every morning I go to work by bus. So one morning while I waited for the bus, this gorgeous girl came up and stood right next to me. I mean she was really hot, about HB9, but her ass, it was incredible. As assman I can truly say, it was the best ass I have ever seen.

We had some very great eye contact going on, and I could see subtle smile on her face, but I could see that she was nervous. Honestly, I think she was attracted to me, because I could read many IOIs.

I wanted to approach her, but there was a problem - my mother. She often goes on the same bus as me and I feel very uncomfortable to pick up girls while standing next to my mother. So I basically stepped back and didn't approach.

So every morning for 2 weeks we were always standing together: HB9, me and my mother. It was like a torture, we had some EC with HB9. We sometimes stood very close and she was grinding her hips on my hand, etc...

But then in the 3rd week my mother wasn't there. I was standing at the bus stop and I was alone. I was very, very nervous. In my mind I was planning the approach. Then she came. I thought I could approach her, but I stood like a pole, I couldn't move.

Everything that I thought, I could say, seemed dumb. I did want to come off as confident to her, but I couldn't come up with anything. I was really scared. As I found out my mother was not the main problem, the cold approach was. At the parties, I never have the problem to approach girls, even the very hot ones. But with this cold approach I was just ****ed up! So we got on the bus and stood besides.
Her eyes were literally saying, "Talk to me, just do it!". But I stood there like a dork, it was so miserable. Then my stop came and I got off.

All day I was cursing myself, and swore to make a move next time.
Next day came the next time. But, when I saw her, I forgot everything that I had planned. Again, I missed it!
For next few days I had a chance to make a move, but every time I chickened out and as the days went by, I felt more confident to approach her, because I was sick of absence of my balls.
So came another Monday and I swore, I would approach no matter what.
I went to the bus stop, with smile on my face, because today was the day, I AM GONNA APROACH. But guess what? She wasn't there. There was no HB9 at the bus stop. She was gone. Week passed and I never saw her again. I had officially ****ED UP!
So now I hate myself, because I will never know... maybe she was the one, maybe she was my future wife, or maybe she was just a good LTR material... But the saddest thing is, I WILL NEVER KNOW!
As you can see, maybe I have developed one-itis to this girl, but you know I will never know, how it could have worked out...
Why didn't I approach her? I had nothing to lose, maybe I would lose some confidence, if she turned me down, but I better lose a little confidence than never know...

So my advice to you guys is, NEVER MISS AN OPPORTUNITY! I mean it's not only with girls, in general in life there are many opportunities that you miss that you will regret later...

Now I have swore to my self, that I will pursue any opportunity that will come along! That's it!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Tomatoes

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Everyone does it....the fear of the approach is one of the hardest things to overcome in your game....I admit..im not over it myself! I hate cold approaches. I have no problem gaming girls. I have about a 90% success rate on all girls i try and game with (Seriouslly).

I have the same issue thow. I always feel like whatever i say will not be right....

The other way i see it that is negative is like a cold call sale. They piss you off....You didnt enquire about new "whatever" so why are you calling me trying to sell it to me wasting my time.

I know with girls....they wont approach even if they want it....i think its all my mind trying to trick me out of it because of my own fear.


Strange thing is.....when i do cold approach it always seems ok.

Fvcking fear of cold approach :box:
 

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if this is the reason that you hate yourself, than life is going to eat you up and spit you out.

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LOL i feel u bro.

At least u got a decent excuse, ur mom bein there an all hahahah. damn that blows son lose ya mama infact send her my way ill give her a ride :crazy:

jk son jk
 

ProDJ26

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i kno exatly how u feel bro...
this iz a perfect example of living ur life ( hell mine 2 ) in regret

THAT IZ EXACTLY Y I LIVE EVERYDAY LIKE IT'S MY LAST & TAKE CHANCES
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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