Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Enlightening: How I ****ed up and now I hate myself

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Every morning I go to work by bus. So one morning while I waited for the bus, this gorgeous girl came up and stood right next to me. I mean she was really hot, about HB9, but her ass, it was incredible. As assman I can truly say, it was the best ass I have ever seen.

We had some very great eye contact going on, and I could see subtle smile on her face, but I could see that she was nervous. Honestly, I think she was attracted to me, because I could read many IOIs.

I wanted to approach her, but there was a problem - my mother. She often goes on the same bus as me and I feel very uncomfortable to pick up girls while standing next to my mother. So I basically stepped back and didn't approach.

So every morning for 2 weeks we were always standing together: HB9, me and my mother. It was like a torture, we had some EC with HB9. We sometimes stood very close and she was grinding her hips on my hand, etc...

But then in the 3rd week my mother wasn't there. I was standing at the bus stop and I was alone. I was very, very nervous. In my mind I was planning the approach. Then she came. I thought I could approach her, but I stood like a pole, I couldn't move.

Everything that I thought, I could say, seemed dumb. I did want to come off as confident to her, but I couldn't come up with anything. I was really scared. As I found out my mother was not the main problem, the cold approach was. At the parties, I never have the problem to approach girls, even the very hot ones. But with this cold approach I was just ****ed up! So we got on the bus and stood besides.
Her eyes were literally saying, "Talk to me, just do it!". But I stood there like a dork, it was so miserable. Then my stop came and I got off.

All day I was cursing myself, and swore to make a move next time.
Next day came the next time. But, when I saw her, I forgot everything that I had planned. Again, I missed it!
For next few days I had a chance to make a move, but every time I chickened out and as the days went by, I felt more confident to approach her, because I was sick of absence of my balls.
So came another Monday and I swore, I would approach no matter what.
I went to the bus stop, with smile on my face, because today was the day, I AM GONNA APROACH. But guess what? She wasn't there. There was no HB9 at the bus stop. She was gone. Week passed and I never saw her again. I had officially ****ED UP!
So now I hate myself, because I will never know... maybe she was the one, maybe she was my future wife, or maybe she was just a good LTR material... But the saddest thing is, I WILL NEVER KNOW!
As you can see, maybe I have developed one-itis to this girl, but you know I will never know, how it could have worked out...
Why didn't I approach her? I had nothing to lose, maybe I would lose some confidence, if she turned me down, but I better lose a little confidence than never know...

So my advice to you guys is, NEVER MISS AN OPPORTUNITY! I mean it's not only with girls, in general in life there are many opportunities that you miss that you will regret later...

Now I have swore to my self, that I will pursue any opportunity that will come along! That's it!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Tomatoes

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Everyone does it....the fear of the approach is one of the hardest things to overcome in your game....I admit..im not over it myself! I hate cold approaches. I have no problem gaming girls. I have about a 90% success rate on all girls i try and game with (Seriouslly).

I have the same issue thow. I always feel like whatever i say will not be right....

The other way i see it that is negative is like a cold call sale. They piss you off....You didnt enquire about new "whatever" so why are you calling me trying to sell it to me wasting my time.

I know with girls....they wont approach even if they want it....i think its all my mind trying to trick me out of it because of my own fear.


Strange thing is.....when i do cold approach it always seems ok.

Fvcking fear of cold approach :box:
 

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if this is the reason that you hate yourself, than life is going to eat you up and spit you out.

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LOL i feel u bro.

At least u got a decent excuse, ur mom bein there an all hahahah. damn that blows son lose ya mama infact send her my way ill give her a ride :crazy:

jk son jk
 

ProDJ26

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i kno exatly how u feel bro...
this iz a perfect example of living ur life ( hell mine 2 ) in regret

THAT IZ EXACTLY Y I LIVE EVERYDAY LIKE IT'S MY LAST & TAKE CHANCES
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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