"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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English Graduate - need life direction. I am paralysed with options or lack of.

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I graduated from uni about six months ago, got my degree (2,1) and now I need a career direction. Problem is I am totally paralysed with fear about making the wrong decisions, this leads me to reject the ideas of working for big companies, etc. I have NO IDEA what i want to do with my life. NO IDEA. Anybody else been in this position. I am now feeling like i need to get some kind of job ANY job, but i want to be happy in my life, i don;t just wanna work for the money, but at the same time i need to make money.

Anybody else in this position? been in this position? How did you sort yourself out?
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Read this 6 part article. It`s a little bit long but it should help you sort things out.
 

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Read the free e-book copy of "Think and Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill. It should help you immensly.

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Mr.Fantastic said:
I graduated from uni about six months ago, got my degree (2,1) and now I need a career direction. Problem is I am totally paralysed with fear about making the wrong decisions, this leads me to reject the ideas of working for big companies, etc. I have NO IDEA what i want to do with my life. NO IDEA. Anybody else been in this position. I am now feeling like i need to get some kind of job ANY job, but i want to be happy in my life, i don;t just wanna work for the money, but at the same time i need to make money.

Anybody else in this position? been in this position? How did you sort yourself out?
Thanks
Ah yes, the mid-twenties identity crisis most college graduate go through. It took me 15 months from graduation to find my first serious job and during those 15 months I went back and forth between similar thoughts. I've been at my job for a year now and have been continually strategizing my next moves to incrementally go where I want. Steve Jobs delivered a brilliant commencement speech about connecting the dots in life.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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MOVE. From your terms ("uni", "2,1" which is quite good, congrats) I'm guessing you're British or Irish. If the former, move somewhere in the Commonwealth and do a job! Your degree could probably get you a teaching gig in Tanzania for a year, or you could work at Club Med in the West Indies. Just get out of wherever you are and GO. Think about where you could be in the next three years if you spend a few of them changing your life completely... you probably can't, which is good. Just GO!

Tyler at RSD wrote a really fantastic article at his blog yesterday that sort of ties into that theme. realsocialdynamics.blogspot.com
 

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the commencement speech was amazing.

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I like to quote Don Cherry's father for a minute. He wrote a poem that had this in it,

"Success is failure, turned inside out."

Failure is the best thing that will ever happen to you. You're more experienced, smarts, and better direction. Don't look at failure as a bad thing. Look at it as it's the experiences that will make you great.

After I graduated I had an internal crisis, and took my life away from working for someone, to people working for me. My life, my terms, my time.
 

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thanks for the suggestions guys, im reading the stuff and some of it is very inspirational. I think what I am going through is known as the 'quarter life crisis', anybody else heard this term?
 
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