"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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English Graduate - need life direction. I am paralysed with options or lack of.

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I graduated from uni about six months ago, got my degree (2,1) and now I need a career direction. Problem is I am totally paralysed with fear about making the wrong decisions, this leads me to reject the ideas of working for big companies, etc. I have NO IDEA what i want to do with my life. NO IDEA. Anybody else been in this position. I am now feeling like i need to get some kind of job ANY job, but i want to be happy in my life, i don;t just wanna work for the money, but at the same time i need to make money.

Anybody else in this position? been in this position? How did you sort yourself out?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Read this 6 part article. It`s a little bit long but it should help you sort things out.
 

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Read the free e-book copy of "Think and Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill. It should help you immensly.

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Mr.Fantastic said:
I graduated from uni about six months ago, got my degree (2,1) and now I need a career direction. Problem is I am totally paralysed with fear about making the wrong decisions, this leads me to reject the ideas of working for big companies, etc. I have NO IDEA what i want to do with my life. NO IDEA. Anybody else been in this position. I am now feeling like i need to get some kind of job ANY job, but i want to be happy in my life, i don;t just wanna work for the money, but at the same time i need to make money.

Anybody else in this position? been in this position? How did you sort yourself out?
Thanks
Ah yes, the mid-twenties identity crisis most college graduate go through. It took me 15 months from graduation to find my first serious job and during those 15 months I went back and forth between similar thoughts. I've been at my job for a year now and have been continually strategizing my next moves to incrementally go where I want. Steve Jobs delivered a brilliant commencement speech about connecting the dots in life.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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MOVE. From your terms ("uni", "2,1" which is quite good, congrats) I'm guessing you're British or Irish. If the former, move somewhere in the Commonwealth and do a job! Your degree could probably get you a teaching gig in Tanzania for a year, or you could work at Club Med in the West Indies. Just get out of wherever you are and GO. Think about where you could be in the next three years if you spend a few of them changing your life completely... you probably can't, which is good. Just GO!

Tyler at RSD wrote a really fantastic article at his blog yesterday that sort of ties into that theme. realsocialdynamics.blogspot.com
 

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the commencement speech was amazing.

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I like to quote Don Cherry's father for a minute. He wrote a poem that had this in it,

"Success is failure, turned inside out."

Failure is the best thing that will ever happen to you. You're more experienced, smarts, and better direction. Don't look at failure as a bad thing. Look at it as it's the experiences that will make you great.

After I graduated I had an internal crisis, and took my life away from working for someone, to people working for me. My life, my terms, my time.
 

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thanks for the suggestions guys, im reading the stuff and some of it is very inspirational. I think what I am going through is known as the 'quarter life crisis', anybody else heard this term?
 
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