Ending by Ignoring

[wjh]

Can someone remind me why this is such a bad thing? I know it can hurt the other person pretty bad if they don't take the hint well. But is that my problem?

If I was dating someone and they did it to me, I would get the hint. That's my logic on this.

I've heard people say it's a weak cop-out, but I don't understand why. Since when are other people's feelings our responsibility?

If I'm a jerk for this I'd like to know why please =)

 

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[romangod]

Ditto.

 

[wjh]

Sorry.

Let me rephrase what I mean by Ending by Ignoring.

Let's say you meet a girl, have sex with her, she gets really emotional, but you don't really care about her or her feelings so instead of dealing with ending it, you just simply ignore her phone calls until she gets the hint.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

Sounds like something a woman would do. I have one doing it to me right now!
This b!tch was nice and sweet and stayed over in my bed, and she has ignored me for 3 weeks.

I took the hint a long time ago and stopped contacting her. But talk about a b!tch move.

 

[Luveno]

I just did this.

Some girl, a pump and dump, was trying to contact me far too often after we had sex.

I just didn't respond to her.

Her last message to me was "you're a real *******". Amusing...

 

[joekerr31]

Can someone remind me why this is such a bad thing? I know it can hurt the other person pretty bad if they don't take the hint well. But is that my problem?

If I was dating someone and they did it to me, I would get the hint. That's my logic on this.

I've heard people say it's a weak cop-out, but I don't understand why. Since when are other people's feelings our responsibility?

If I'm a jerk for this I'd like to know why please =)

if you were done wrong, then ignoring is fine.

if you weren't done wrong, then ignoring is chicken sh*t. common courteousy man.

technically you don't owe anyone anything. but we also have a word for people who go through life only caring about themselves - the word is *sshole.

so you're free to be an *sshole, but you're only going to make us laugh if you turn around and go "hey guys, why is it wrong to be an *sshole?'.

they say that crazy people don't know they are crazy, its a prerequisite to being crazy. similarly, *ssholes don't know they are *ssholes, that's what makes them *ssholes.

 

[joekerr31]

Sounds like something a woman would do. I have one doing it to me right now!
This b!tch was nice and sweet and stayed over in my bed, and she has ignored me for 3 weeks.

I took the hint a long time ago and stopped contacting her. But talk about a b!tch move.

women are chicken sh*t, this is why they do this.

 

[Commando]

Folks who do this are cowards.

Would not the world be a little better if we all did our part to make a minimal effort to consider the other person's feelings?

I find it amusing that some are willing to engage in a pretty intimate activity and then show no regard for the other person. It is a chump move (regardless of gender). It really says more about the person doing this then the person ignored.

If you want a ons, or a fwb arrangement then let that person know up front.

If you do move into an intimate situation and you decide that it is not what you want then respectfully let the other person know. Give them 5 minutes of courtesy and ...let them know. They might not like your decision, but at least you did pay them the respect of letting them know it was over or that no relationship was possible. Nobody likes to be left hanging.

Even if you are done wrong I would suggest letting the other person know they are no longer wanted in your life. As in standing up for yourself and voicing your perspective of their actions. Do this once and then let it go.

Then by all means, ignore away.

It is about mutual respect. Give it and seek it. Let offending parties know when they step on it and distance yourself accordingly.

 

[Luthor Rex]

so you're free to be an *sshole, but you're only going to make us laugh if you turn around and go "hey guys, why is it wrong to be an *sshole?'.

As time goes by in the OP's life, people will catch on to what kind of guy he is. Eventually no one decent will want to be his friend. I've seen this played out before on women and men who were azzholes at heart.

The biggest example of this in my personal life was a woman who I knew, who was a cold-blooded piece of work. I caught on pretty quick to what she was... anyhow, eventually her best friend of 15+ years wrote everyone in their friendship circle a letter telling them all the crap the cold-blooded one had done behind their backs. Ms. Cold Blood is now 40 and nearly friendless.

"A faithful friend is a sure shelter, whoever finds one has found a rare treasure. A faithful friend is something beyond price, there is no measuring his worth.... for as a man is, so is his friend." Ecclesiasticus 6:14-17

 

[iqqi]

I think that the way a person treats others, is a reflection of themselves.

Especially when it comes to the "why's".



EDIT: I also have two bars now (woo hoo), that I earned THE HARD WAY! B!tches better listen to the great wise IQSTER!

 

[ketostix]

Folks who do this are cowards.

Would not the world be a little better if we all did our part to make a minimal effort to consider the other person's feelings?

I find it amusing that some are willing to engage in a pretty intimate activity and then show no regard for the other person. It is a chump move (regardless of gender). It really says more about the person doing this then the person ignored.

If you want a ons, or a fwb arrangement then let that person know up front.

If you do move into an intimate situation and you decide that it is not what you want then respectfully let the other person know. Give them 5 minutes of courtesy and ...let them know. They might not like your decision, but at least you did pay them the respect of letting them know it was over or that no relationship was possible. Nobody likes to be left hanging.

This would be all and good but women rarely ever do this. And you can't tell a woman upfront that you only want her for a ONS. Even if that's all she ends up wanting too, her ego won't allow agree to that or for her to tell a guy that she wants a ONS only either.

Even if you are done wrong I would suggest letting the other person know they are no longer wanted in your life. As in standing up for yourself and voicing your perspective of their actions. Do this once and then let it go.

Then by all means, ignore away.

It is about mutual respect. Give it and seek it. Let offending parties know when they step on it and distance yourself accordingly.

OK but this can be a slppery slope where you project blame on someone else when there really isn't any. And to then ignore them without considering their position is a b!tch tactic.

I agree with Joekerr. Also if Str8up were here I bet he'd say don't burn bridges and I agree with that as well. A scorned woman will tend to want to get even by telling everyone what an a*shole you are and ruining your rep.

 

[mrRuckus]

Geez, come on guys. Don't complain about women's lack of character if you don't have any.

 

[drmeathead]

a girl did this to me recently. it sucks. we never ****ed or anythnig but it was two dates that i thought went well. hell after the 2nd one she sent me a text telling me she had a great time. then nothing for like two weeks so i asked her what was up. she had been sick and busy for two weeks. so i asked her to go for drinks. all i got was sorry i cant.

no counter offer no nothing . so i told her that juice wasnt worth the squeeze anymore and i was getting rid of her number. she told me haha ok whatever you want. i told her to go ****her self that she wasnt pretty enough to treat me like this. that sort of upset her. she told me to get over myself. i told her that i did nothing but show her a nice time and for her to just go cold after acting interested was bull**** and have a nice life.

 

[Mr.Positive]

Telling her off was pointless, IMO. This gal lacked any class, and you are better than stooping to her level and telling her off. All you did was validate her. You showed weakness here. Remember to be ABOVE the game sometimes. The best thing you did was ditch her number, but she wasn't worth a response at all.

 

[thedeparted]

Jeez, this happens to me all the time... In fact, I cannot recall any woman who ever said, "Let's just be friends." They'd just not answer my calls or emails. I thought that was the standard approach, actually.

 

[MotownMack]

Jeez, this happens to me all the time... In fact, I cannot recall any woman who ever said, "Let's just be friends." They'd just not answer my calls or emails. I thought that was the standard approach, actually.

I'm with you, when they are no longer interested, they just quit calling or contacting, so I often do the same now.

Am I complaining about it?

Nah, I just took it that this is how it's done... and know matter what you make think about it, it IS how it's done in 90% of the cases. So, rather than b1tch about what I can't change, I've just sucked it up, and in some cases done it myself.

Oh well.

 

[ketostix]

Geez, come on guys. Don't complain about women's lack of character if you don't have any.

I think you are confusing some of the guys with women . But yes if you don't have character, then don't be a hypocrite and complain about other's having a lack of character.

 

[ketostix]

a girl did this to me recently. it sucks. we never ****ed or anythnig but it was two dates that i thought went well. hell after the 2nd one she sent me a text telling me she had a great time. then nothing for like two weeks so i asked her what was up. she had been sick and busy for two weeks. so i asked her to go for drinks. all i got was sorry i cant.

no counter offer no nothing . so i told her that juice wasnt worth the squeeze anymore and i was getting rid of her number. she told me haha ok whatever you want. i told her to go ****her self that she wasnt pretty enough to treat me like this. that sort of upset her. she told me to get over myself. i told her that i did nothing but show her a nice time and for her to just go cold after acting interested was bull**** and have a nice life.

I don't think what you did benefited you besides venting, but I think it probably will be beneficial for the next guy. I don't see it as you validated her. If every guy called women out on their sh!t, women would stop doing this kind of stuff. We men are collectively enablers.

 

[Luthor Rex]

This thread is a great example of another reason why the West is on a downhill trajectory: cowardice has become acceptable behavior.

When the sh!t goes down and the Islamo-fascists start slitting throats, no amount of passive-aggressive bullsh!t will stop them.

Does Sean Connery gotta slap a h0?