"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Ended the year in a HUGE way.

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What would be the last day ever for me in junior high...

Got to school, saw an X whom I still have feelings for mack on some guy I dislike imensely. Bought the usually morning Brisk Ice Tea, saw her yet again and lost my cool AKA I threw a quarter at her and gave her a face as she stared me down. Went to class studied for a few hours, as the bell hit for break I was informed that another X who I also still have feelings for, but have been fighting with her for quite some time, had made racial comments stating she plain hated people of a particular race. Word got out and she was confronted by a group of people who were irate about her comments. I was near the scene watching them verbally assualt her and it was only a matter of time before things got out of hand, physically i mean. So, I don't know why, but I came to her rescue. I escorted her to the office where she was safe and physically removed some guys along the way, I also spit out threats, demanding them to keep away from her. For my troubles I got the boot from school for the rest of the year, and since I'm graduating, for the rest of my life. Did I do the right thing? PLEASE leave comments! I'm really interested to hear your opinons.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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yes you did the right thing.**** guys who assualt women. i mean i dont love them hoes but i also dont want to see them get physically beat up.you go to high school or college?.just curiuos what ethnic background was she making comments about?
 

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Thanks for your reply sir. I just finnished my last year of junior high (grade nine)
She made racial comments towards african americans.
 

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yeah i have had some czech comments made towards me and my last name is czech and i got cracks all the time in high school about my last name from guys and gals even racial slurs. but i would have never said **** to any gals i would have talked back but not assualted.
 

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let me get this straight

you protected a girl from violence with WORDS, and you got booted outta school?

what the fvck is this world coming too
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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You might have done the right thing protecting her from harm.....
but she brought it on herself by being racist in the first place.

In these situations make sure your protecting the chick because you feel its the right thing to do rather than just because you have feelings for her.

As for getting booted from school, man thats harsh. At my school me and another guy only got suspended for 3 days for a KNIFE fight.
 

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damn a knife fight?i got suspended a day for saying dukie in grade school.a day for writing "hard on" on the dry erase board.i would have to seen what would have happened to me if i had a knife
 

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No you didnt do the right thing. You stuck up for some undeserving racist ***** who deserved what was coming to her and got kicked out of school. Well done, ace.

Hey - who won the knife fight?
 

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WHY?! Why would you stick up for her. Just made yourself look more like a chump who hasn't gotten over the relationship and was such an AFC that you had to get kicked out over a girl that didn't like you. I bet she didn't even thank you. Don't try save girls who deserve whats comming.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Na man, WAS IT REALLY WORTH IT???

I DONT THINK SO........ you got kick out when she deserved it. YOU BETTER BE GETTING A "THANK YOU bj OR SOMTHIN"
 

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Sounds like this has a few layers, definetly a gray area as to wether it was wrong or right.

Regardless of what anyone says, you did the right thing by protecting her from a mob. I speak from past experiences when i say that that group think goes on, and things can truly get outta hand. You were in the right.

However, if you hook up with her again, DO NO TOLERATE THAT ****. She was in the wrong by making any sort of comment. If theres one thing you should do, its get her to not be hateful towards people that are different than her.
 

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Originally posted by Vong
Sounds like this has a few layers, definetly a gray area as to wether it was wrong or right.

Regardless of what anyone says, you did the right thing by protecting her from a mob. I speak from past experiences when i say that that group think goes on, and things can truly get outta hand. You were in the right.

However, if you hook up with her again, DO NO TOLERATE THAT ****. She was in the wrong by making any sort of comment. If theres one thing you should do, its get her to not be hateful towards people that are different than her.
You MUST be new!
 

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Originally posted by kyanite
You did the right thing, those people should have rised above the crap or just confronted her on this ****.
It got physical and you did the right thing.
Never hit women. It isnt right.
I understand they can be some of the biggest *****s but in the end physical violence will not solve it. She had what was coming to her but physical violence was taking it too far.
Im suprised at you Tony, how could you say that she should have been attacked?
Yes they have a right to be angry but not a right to hit her for ****s sake..
That's not your problem. It's this "gang/mob" and this girl's problem. Maybe even the law too, but NOONE ELSE! NO ONE YOU HEAR!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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she had it coming to her...i don't know man. rascist comments arn't right. JOKING is fine. but anything serious, if I was black you'd see me in the mob.
 

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Originally posted by oilers05
What would be the last day ever for me in junior high...

Got to school, saw an X whom I still have feelings for mack on some guy I dislike imensely. Bought the usually morning Brisk Ice Tea, saw her yet again and lost my cool AKA I threw a quarter at her and gave her a face as she stared me down. Went to class studied for a few hours, as the bell hit for break I was informed that another X who I also still have feelings for, but have been fighting with her for quite some time, had made racial comments stating she plain hated people of a particular race. Word got out and she was confronted by a group of people who were irate about her comments. I was near the scene watching them verbally assualt her and it was only a matter of time before things got out of hand, physically i mean. So, I don't know why, but I came to her rescue. I escorted her to the office where she was safe and physically removed some guys along the way, I also spit out threats, demanding them to keep away from her. For my troubles I got the boot from school for the rest of the year, and since I'm graduating, for the rest of my life. Did I do the right thing? PLEASE leave comments! I'm really interested to hear your opinons.
Good job Cap'n Save-a-Ho. You are officially WBAFC. Way to go.
 

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Well personally, i think that you did the right thing in standing up for her, since I would never let anyone, whatever they had done, be beaten up by a mob. Take them to court instead, that is what the law is for. Why were you expelled ? What was the justification.
 

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you definately didn't do the right thinG. SHE'S ****ING RACIST... YOU KNOW WHAT THAT MEANS? you're really clever backing up a racist and getting your ass kicked outta school. even though this been mentionned million times in this thread, you crazy for backing up a racist ho
 

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Originally posted by Nexxus
you definately didn't do the right thinG. SHE'S ****ING RACIST... YOU KNOW WHAT THAT MEANS? you're really clever backing up a racist and getting your ass kicked outta school. even though this been mentionned million times in this thread, you crazy for backing up a racist ho
Well he isnt racist, why should you ever stand by and let someone be beaten up. If she is racist, then she is the sick ones, not him. He was just trying to stop mob law.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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