Thanks Bonhomme! 2 thumbs up for you too.Bonhomme said:5. Favorite Moderator
Paradox To paraphrase the Tao Teh Ching, the best leader is the one who people hardly notice is there.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.