Met a girl over the internet who lives in Europe. Been talking to her for about 2 weeks. We've only talked over the phone once, at my request. She hasn't ever suggested the phone. We're always communicating through email and instant messenger, and now it's getting annoying, cause i'd rather speak over the phone, because instant messenger just isn't the same, the phone is more personal. I like this girl a lot so far, and would rather have phone conversations, not instant messenger conversations. Now i'm not saying i should be speaking to this girl everyday, i'm saying maybe once a week....but it seems she doesn't care about talking over the phone. I'm thinking i should just drop her. Cause if she was that interested, she'd want to speak on the phone sometimes. Should i drop her or what? Thanks.
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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
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End it, or what?
- Thread starter No Escape
- Start date
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She could always use a "calling card"..that's what i used when i called her. I spent $5.00 on one, which was good for about 20-25 minutes.Originally posted by Slickster
Do you live in Europe? Or do you plan on moving there?
If not what's the point?
If I were her I wouldn't want to waste money on a big phone bill either.
Aztec
Master Don Juan
Drop what? You don't have any relationship with this girl except via internet.
Maybe she doesn't have the money to call overseas or not really that in to you to spend money for phone chat.
Don't expect too much to come out of this. Just be happy that you have an internet girlfriend.
Maybe she doesn't have the money to call overseas or not really that in to you to spend money for phone chat.
Don't expect too much to come out of this. Just be happy that you have an internet girlfriend.
brat-buster
Don Juan
If you insist on speaking to your pen pal, then just tell her to pick up that little thing they call a cell phone, and dail and have a convo like normal people do.
Or if she refuses Then you may suggest you guys get a preist to enter a chat room and marry you guys online via instant message. Aside from that dude....fly overseas and meet her.
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Or if she refuses Then you may suggest you guys get a preist to enter a chat room and marry you guys online via instant message. Aside from that dude....fly overseas and meet her.
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup:
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
NewMan
Master Don Juan
Get out into the real world.
HeartlessBtch
Don Juan
:crackup:Originally posted by NewMan
Get out into the real world.
I'd never go to meet a chick in another country who i met off the internet. Unless of course she financed it. I see it as too risky in the sense that either i won't be into her or she won't be into me. It would suck if you spent $300 on a plane ticket for nothing.Originally posted by brat-buster
If you insist on speaking to your pen pal, then just tell her to pick up that little thing they call a cell phone, and dail and have a convo like normal people do.
Or if she refuses Then you may suggest you guys get a preist to enter a chat room and marry you guys online via instant message. Aside from that dude....fly overseas and meet her.
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