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You're come to the right place then young man.

Here, as you're witnessed, the tougher the Masters here beat you down, the higher the chances you will survive in this world.

One has to learn how to roll on the ground before flying in the sky.

Stick around and endure being "beaten" up, by doing so, you will inevitably surpass ur limits.
Getting beaten was always a sign.
 

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I got a bad flu in November and in December was thesis crunch time to graduate bachelors (which I did and burned out) so these are (bad) excuses.
1) trying to eat as little as possible while I have time now, stuck at parents' home till conscription starts
2) none right now besides household chores
3) 24.5 and in retrospect feels like a failure to be so late for everything in life
4) videogames and learning to make them a bit... snowboarding I guess too. Used to follow a gym program when I was procrastenating on my thesis.
A lot of peopel tell me that I overthink or stress too much but it seems bull**** to me. Gotta get that 6 figure job and a 6 pack to even concider social relations.
Need to fix that sh it. No excuses not to eat healthy and at least walk/jog for 20 mins a day to start. At 25, you should be looking for some direction internally to find what your purpose is in life. Check out http://www.meetup.com and join some groups to do some interesting sh it. What country do you reside?
 

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Need to fix that sh it. No excuses not to eat healthy and at least walk/jog for 20 mins a day to start. At 25, you should be looking for some direction internally to find what your purpose is in life. Check out http://www.meetup.com and join some groups to do some interesting sh it. What country do you reside?
Finalnd. Going to army shortly after new years anyways. I don't even want to go out besides yelling my longues out at karaoke bars once or twice a month. Nothing good will ever come out.
What disgusts me to the core is that all I am doing is building up for some potential used up ***** in her epiphany stage. What, I get to finally be decently respectable by 35 and then rosties will line up? What a great strategy.
Meanwhile every girl I meet disgusts me to the core, worse when I think and see them "opening up", paint it black and such.
 
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Fuk me. Go to trade school. I d suggest electrical and learn about automation and control. somebody has to install all this automated sh1t and that will be a good living for many years to come. And however you do it buy some arable land. Join a team sport. You've got bigger things to worry about than pvssy.
 

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Fuk me. Go to trade school. I d suggest electrical and learn about automation and control. somebody has to install all this automated sh1t and that will be a good living for many years to come. And however you do it buy some arable land. Join a team sport. You've got bigger things to worry about than pvssy.
I just graduated IT engineering bachelors
 

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Well in that case it's time to get a s*** IT job. What country?
Finland. Going to army in January though. It really grinds my gears how everyone seems to just BE happy. As if nobody ever has to even bother about the future and just lives some carefree hedonistic lifestyle
 

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Geeze Finland is a pretty good country. It sounds like your issues are mental. In Finland you should be able to access some counselling. start with that and download yourself some good resources on meditation and stoic philosophy. At 24 your main mission is to get control of your head. Plenty of good material too on positive psychology.

If you are going into the army try to be the fittest guy there. That will give you some street cred with the guys.
 

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Geeze Finland is a pretty good country. It sounds like your issues are mental. In Finland you should be able to access some counselling. start with that and download yourself some good resources on meditation and stoic philosophy. At 24 your main mission is to get control of your head. Plenty of good material too on positive psychology.

If you are going into the army try to be the fittest guy there. That will give you some street cred with the guys.
I concider myself fit enough to haul heavy **** for hours.
Counceling is a sham to only make things worse or turn you into a good goy.
 

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Right so you came here to get advice and you want to argue with everyone who gives it ...good luck with that
 

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I concider myself fit enough to haul heavy **** for hours.
Counceling is a sham to only make things worse or turn you into a good goy.
Don’t worry, if you’re going into the Army you won’t have to worry about your purpose or motivation soon…
Sounds like you could use some helpful discipline …
 

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Don’t worry, if you’re going into the Army you won’t have to worry about your purpose or motivation soon…
Sounds like you could use some helpful discipline …
What I hope for.
Right so you came here to get advice and you want to argue with everyone who gives it ...good luck with that
The only thing I discarded is counceling. Everything else I am greatful for.
 

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Yeah it tells us a lot about your social skills and this vs that binary black and white mindset. See if I knocked back the counselling idea here is how I would do it.

I think counselling can be really good for some people. (Has to be true sometimes)

I'm not sure it is right for me now as I'm trying to get my own ideas on the world straight and having other ideas pushed on me might confuse things. (BTW if you seek out CBT trained counselors this is unlikely to be true. Try thinking of them as a mindfulness coach rather than a counselor).

do you see how my version was less abrasive and taking more responsibility for myself?
 

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Finalnd. Going to army shortly after new years anyways. I don't even want to go out besides yelling my longues out at karaoke bars once or twice a month. Nothing good will ever come out.
What disgusts me to the core is that all I am doing is building up for some potential used up ***** in her epiphany stage. What, I get to finally be decently respectable by 35 and then rosties will line up? What a great strategy.
Meanwhile every girl I meet disgusts me to the core, worse when I think and see them "opening up", paint it black and such.
That may help with discipline, but you need to get your head right. Have you considered talking to someone IRL about your depression? Exercise is great for ridding one's self for depression. It releases endorphins; which changes your mood and you can think clearer and better.
 

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Yea. Sounds so much more coherent.
If I had a dollar for every "just go to therapy", heh
 

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That may help with discipline, but you need to get your head right. Have you considered talking to someone IRL about your depression? Exercise is great for ridding one's self for depression. It releases endorphins; which changes your mood and you can think clearer and better.
Exercise did not help, I think I was even less productive. Also nobody to talk to.
 

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Exercise did not help, I think I was even less productive. Also nobody to talk to.
MMA, rock climbing, come on dude. Don't give up on yourself. Here, check this out.

 

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MMA, rock climbing, come on dude. Don't give up on yourself. Here, check this out.

Thanks. Will see if there will be any drive for this besides job hunting after I am done with the service (which may be 6 months or 9 or 12..)
 

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Getting beaten was always a sign.
You were born lucky, grew up entitled and in a privileged society but yet ended up like this.

Ur mindset needs some fresh perspectives.

Get out of ur safe zone, go visit some poor country, visit their slums, see how thousands of people struggle to survive just with 1 meal a day and not knowing if they have food for tomorrow.

But they carry on, some despite all sorts of hardships has managed to thrive and surpass it.

They had nothing, no education, many without houses, no clean water, not even electricity, etc but just surviving on sheer willpower and the belief that they shall overcome.

But you, with all that's available in ur society can think of such thoughts of ending it all.

Perhaps you need to 1st learn on how to feel shame.
 
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