"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Guys, flame me, or gimme good advice: Last nite I bumped into this chick, I am head over heels for her, and she knows it. She shows me to her friends "Look who is here - Psycho!" Her girlfriend came to interfere, I moved her aside "Look I want to talk ONLY to her" Then we started "accusing" each other, me of her being nasty to me, her of me acting aggressive before, I explained to her face "Look, sometimes I do stupid things because I am emotional about you" She took it allright. Then they left, and her girlfriend left me that "We love you so deeply and sadly" look, when leaving. I was puzzled. At one moment I was winning over her, next moment all is in the air again. What to do now? Email something. Or not? Or keep on circling night life scene, where we occasionally bump into each other...?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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rick6599

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In other words, I can conclude she is no good. Or should I demand respect from her, in strong language? Maybe I can do that?
 

California Love

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I can tell you still really like her, but understand that it will not work out.

"What is a friend? A single soul dwelling in two bodies."

-Aristotle
 

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hmmm *-)...try this...

1. 1st thing too got too do Is stop . think and evaluate things.

2. Start from the beginning with this girl just chat with her occasionally try too leave it short but good / fun at the same time .. let her get respect for yourself... leave out romantic / sexual comments and suggestion for now.

3. work on improving yourself, make sure you look after yourself(your body and looks) eat healthy , exercise and have some sort of style with yourself such as your hair and clothes and respect yourself for who you are.

4. After youve gained some more respect for yourself go and try too Aproach at least 1 girl a day or more if possible.... within a month you should have a few dates and phone numbers :)

5. Now you have 1) improved yourself as a person 2) this girl dont think of you as a pyscho anymore 3) you now should have plenty of female attention :)........ so what you have too realise is maybe things will work with this girl , if not who cares ! you have plenty of other girls wanting too see you... so give it a try use tips of this site too get her attracted too you, act confindent your a guy with desires but your not needy let her see this for herself.

good luck
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Yikes dude...

Sounds very bad.

She introduces you as "Psycho" to her friend. She has probably talked to her about some "psycho" who is in love with her. Understand? She talks **** about you behind your back, and introduces you as a friggin joke.

Not your fault, hers. TOTAL disrespect. On the other hand, why is she calling you psycho? Because she knows you are head over heels for her, and that she can lead you wherever she wants.

You were never winning her over - she is leading you on because she enjoys the attention. DON'T demand respect from her in strong language, just stop talking to her and when she asks why, just tell her "Because I don't appreciate people who think I'm a chump." or something to that effect.

It wasn't a "love you deeply and sadly" look. It was PITY. Pity, because she knows you are in love with this girl, and she is toying with you.

Go ahead and improve yourself, but NOT for HER. For YOURSELF. She's not interested in you, anytime she acts like it is just to get you interested so that she can then act like she's not interested anymore. Girls love to play this game.
 

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This is a sad assesment. No problem for me to go and f@ck ten others, I just tought there was something more I could do - to write something in her email, or so...
 

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You sound very young and probably made too many mistakes here. Isn't your attraction really just infatuation? Add to that some desperation? She probably senses this and this is not attractive. If you really like this girl, you'll have to calm down and take the time to approach her in a confident but genuinely nice way.
If you are consistent and take the time to let her get to know you things can change.
 

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Forget about her and move on.

She clearly is either messing with you, wants no part of you, or both.

Find someone else.
 

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dude, your a pvssy. fvck that hoe...move on!! ignore her and she might even be wondering why and try to draw more attention from you cuz she might be an attention hoe.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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