"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Emotional outbursts.

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What can be said about girls and their emotional outbursts?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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'outbursts.' The inventors of the english language called it that for a reason.

Think about it...
 

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Depends on the gravity of the situation causing the outburst. If she breaks a nail and starts crying - give her space, shes just being human and emotional. If her mom has cancer and home life is falling apart... take her hand, look her in the eyes, tell her everything will be ok, and give her a hug.

Being a good MAN is infinately more important, and fulfilling, than being a good DJ.
 

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Anthony, what you speak of is true. But it is far more complex. You can not just say "it'll be okay" to everything, espically to the circumstances you presented. If you acually have been in that sitution, it is very hard to deal with.

You have to be there for them, not say a few words and leave. It can be very stressful. You begin to feel just as bad as she does...
 

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Originally posted by Fitch
Anthony, what you speak of is true. But it is far more complex. You can not just say "it'll be okay" to everything, espically to the circumstances you presented. If you acually have been in that sitution, it is very hard to deal with.

You have to be there for them, not say a few words and leave. It can be very stressful. You begin to feel just as bad as she does...
You missread my post. A girl I was out with sat night WAS in that situation... and I was there for her. We talked about it for an hour, in fact. But in essance, I just let her speak, I held her hand, I listened, I told her it was going to be ok, and I held her untill she was happy again.
 

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Well that is a bit odd. One hour and she is all better again... it is not that easy.
 

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I dindnt take her moms cancer away, thats not my job. I helped her find strength, so she could release herself from blame/responsibility and enjoy her night.
 
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