"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Emergency situation. please help

Hyper2010

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Guys situation arisen

Been seeing a girl for 8 weeks, and just an hour ago I get the following whattsap message

I'll be honest, my ex has contacted me asking to get back with me. I don't want to speak as I'm all over the place right now. Give me a day and I'll speak to you at some point. I know that's not what you want to hear but its the truth xx

She won't answer phone or speak to me since

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Skyline

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Hyper2010 said:
Guys situation arisen

Been seeing a girl for 8 weeks, and just an hour ago I get the following whattsap message

I'll be honest, my ex has contacted me asking to get back with me. I don't want to speak as I'm all over the place right now. Give me a day and I'll speak to you at some point. I know that's not what you want to hear but its the truth xx

She won't answer phone or speak to me since

p
You pretty much broke indifference. She's basically telling you to go Ghost and talk to other girls in the time being.
 

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If I'm with a girl for 8 weeks. I have her beggin me to *** in her. Be a little more of a ****. your being to nice, for christs sake man. All the girls i've been with are retard obessed with me after 8 weeks, to the point where I lose respect for them. 8 weeks, jesus.
 

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LOL, that's really tactful of her to tell you straight up she's gonna put you on the back burner while she ponders what to do about her EX. Sounds like you were really import to her and she's really trying to win you over.

I think you should make things easy for her. Tell her thanks but no thanks. You're out of there.

She can have fun going back to a failed relationship.
 

Mantis Toboggan

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Frayzer said:
You pretty much broke indifference. She's basically telling you to go Ghost and talk to other girls in the time being.

Agreed. Once she said "Give me a day" you should have given her a week.

But it is what it is. There's nothing you can do but lay low and focus on other stuff.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I learnt the hard way but like the others have posted, go indifference and drop her. I don't suggest a mean or emotional reply either (don't burn your bridges) just a simple, short and mature one.
 

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Cheers for replies guys

Guess your right, why would I want to be with someone who is borderline stupid enough to go back to an ex to restart a failed relationship. The only saving grace is that by having been dealt that wild card I know it wasn't really my fault per say.

As for anything in the future, with her any trust would be permenantly destroyed, I'd be chewing my guy with paranoia if I started anything serious with her. Could potential use her as a possible FB for when she gets hurt again, which she will. I guess I was being too nice. Time to embrace the dark side.
 
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