"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Emergency situation. please help

Hyper2010

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Guys situation arisen

Been seeing a girl for 8 weeks, and just an hour ago I get the following whattsap message

I'll be honest, my ex has contacted me asking to get back with me. I don't want to speak as I'm all over the place right now. Give me a day and I'll speak to you at some point. I know that's not what you want to hear but its the truth xx

She won't answer phone or speak to me since

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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Hyper2010 said:
Guys situation arisen

Been seeing a girl for 8 weeks, and just an hour ago I get the following whattsap message

I'll be honest, my ex has contacted me asking to get back with me. I don't want to speak as I'm all over the place right now. Give me a day and I'll speak to you at some point. I know that's not what you want to hear but its the truth xx

She won't answer phone or speak to me since

p
You pretty much broke indifference. She's basically telling you to go Ghost and talk to other girls in the time being.
 

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If I'm with a girl for 8 weeks. I have her beggin me to *** in her. Be a little more of a ****. your being to nice, for christs sake man. All the girls i've been with are retard obessed with me after 8 weeks, to the point where I lose respect for them. 8 weeks, jesus.
 

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LOL, that's really tactful of her to tell you straight up she's gonna put you on the back burner while she ponders what to do about her EX. Sounds like you were really import to her and she's really trying to win you over.

I think you should make things easy for her. Tell her thanks but no thanks. You're out of there.

She can have fun going back to a failed relationship.
 

Mantis Toboggan

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Frayzer said:
You pretty much broke indifference. She's basically telling you to go Ghost and talk to other girls in the time being.

Agreed. Once she said "Give me a day" you should have given her a week.

But it is what it is. There's nothing you can do but lay low and focus on other stuff.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I learnt the hard way but like the others have posted, go indifference and drop her. I don't suggest a mean or emotional reply either (don't burn your bridges) just a simple, short and mature one.
 

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Cheers for replies guys

Guess your right, why would I want to be with someone who is borderline stupid enough to go back to an ex to restart a failed relationship. The only saving grace is that by having been dealt that wild card I know it wasn't really my fault per say.

As for anything in the future, with her any trust would be permenantly destroyed, I'd be chewing my guy with paranoia if I started anything serious with her. Could potential use her as a possible FB for when she gets hurt again, which she will. I guess I was being too nice. Time to embrace the dark side.
 
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