"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Emergency Decision

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Now, i feel really stupid, some girl has been after me to meet with her (about a 6) for such a long time and eventually i gave in, especially as my usual crowd are all away. (I would not want too be seen dead with this girl) figured a little practice cant harm me. But now iv decided i really cant be bothered to go. Iv bailed on her before, so i feel bad. What would you do.

Give in to laziness or desperation?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Don't ask us what you want man. Only you know that.

Look at the pros and cons and make the decision

Good luck mate :)
 

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Damn, i knew that was what i was gonna get, thats the kinda advice that id give. I cancelled. Just had my first driving lesson :D, except he cut it short by about half an hour.
 

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i know it may be to late now as you have canceled already but if you want her as a freind you should not have canceled as it has probably upset her.
 

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Originally posted by check_mate_kid_uk
i know it may be to late now as you have canceled already but if you want her as a freind you should not have canceled as it has probably upset her.
ya think??
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by check_mate_kid_uk
i know it may be to late now as you have canceled already but if you want her as a freind you should not have canceled as it has probably upset her.
its alright, shes a friend of my m8s gf, their circle is very distant from mine, ill live
:), plus it was today
 
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You should be the 'Chooser' - this is the man's domain!!! Don't let a woman or your desperation dictate the agenda!!! Be a man!!
 

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Originally posted by JSH
Now, i feel really stupid, some girl has been after me to meet with her (about a 6) for such a long time and eventually i gave in, especially as my usual crowd are all away. (I would not want too be seen dead with this girl) figured a little practice cant harm me. But now iv decided i really cant be bothered to go. Iv bailed on her before, so i feel bad. What would you do.

Give in to laziness or desperation?
Remember this when you build up enough courage to ask a hot girl out, and she stands you up.
 

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Gun *ccok* BOOM.....SPLATER *gasp* *screaming* frantic phone beeping *sirens* ~fin~
 
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