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I started reading it a couple of days ago. Really good read so far.
Any one eles check it out yet?
Any one eles check it out yet?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Its a total lack of perspective... Its like those religious nutz who come to your door saying "the end is near, Jesus is coming, bla, bla bla..."Interesting how in a country that has been far and above the most prosperous nation since World War II, everyone constantly thinks that it is on the edge of catastrophe...
Haven't read the book, but that summary..."ethnic and religious hatred"? Really? Go to Lebanon and then report back if ethnic and religious hatred is really that bad in the US. Look, I respect Neil Strauss for his other works, but this sounds a bit too tinfoil-hat for me.