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I started reading it a couple of days ago. Really good read so far.
Any one eles check it out yet?
Any one eles check it out yet?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Its a total lack of perspective... Its like those religious nutz who come to your door saying "the end is near, Jesus is coming, bla, bla bla..."Interesting how in a country that has been far and above the most prosperous nation since World War II, everyone constantly thinks that it is on the edge of catastrophe...
Haven't read the book, but that summary..."ethnic and religious hatred"? Really? Go to Lebanon and then report back if ethnic and religious hatred is really that bad in the US. Look, I respect Neil Strauss for his other works, but this sounds a bit too tinfoil-hat for me.