I hated change. I would rarely go out of my comfort zone. I get anxiety everyday whenever I think about the social interactions I’m going to encounter throughout my day, whether it’s school, work, or small gatherings. Since joining the forums, I’ve disciplined myself into never breaking my frame. I’ve built up enough confidence to do things I would never do before. I found that going in there without giving it too much thought has worked wonders. Once things are set in motion, it’s usually smooth sailing from there. There are constant barriers in my mind that want to keep me from improving myself, from proving me wrong whenever I have negative thoughts. This is just like the feeling you get before you jump into a pool. You’re going to hesitate. You’re going to worry about how cold the water is going to be against your skin. But once you make that jump, everything turns out to be all right. You can’t let fear control you. It is just an illusion that holds you back from doing new and exciting things that will change your life for the better. I have to keep reminding myself that it is all in my head. The way you see yourself is the way others will see you.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Embracing change
- Thread starter Gan
- Start date
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
Change is only good if the result is an improvement.
Change for sake of change is insane.
That's what I meant
Change is only good if the result is an improvement.
Change for sake of change is insane.
strictly improvement. I'm not going to force myself to do something that doesn't fall into who I am or what I want to become, that would be crazy