Nothing wrong with being shallow. Why be with someone you aren't attracted to?Trump said:Or maybe Im just a shallow guy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Nothing wrong with being shallow. Why be with someone you aren't attracted to?Trump said:Or maybe Im just a shallow guy.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I avoid public places when I am with <6 girls , but in your age who care, as long as she is not your gf .youngmack said:Basically I get embarrassed being seen in public with girls who are under a 7. I was on a date with a 6 the other day and it seemed people were giving me the "you can do better" look Because of this i didnt want to kino her and i tried to get her in private most of the time.
Im about a 7 but i can dress my ass off so it makes me look better. My friends say i should be shooting for 7 and up but for some reason the 6s and below are always attracted to me. I always them down because of this thinking. Is it and ego thing?
Is my thinking is normal or bad? Im leaning more towards the bad side because of the fact that im caring about what other people think . Is it
Interesting that Trump doesn't list his age (recommended by mods a while back to put questions/advice in perspective).Trump said:The most I important thing for guys is:
1) weight
2) age
3) looks
Weight is deadly, anything more than 5 lbs a girl is done. Age is only relevant if the girl wants to get married, over 30 you are done.
True. It should also be said that you can't be blatantly in the friendzone with the girl either - if you're shopping with her at victoria's secret as she's checking out other guys, don't expect other women to be throwing their numbers at you. U dont have to be banging her persay, but don't be her doormat eitherMegaman XIV said:Read my sig.
Women attract women, and a man is considered desirable as long as he has a woman. Even if he pays her for social proof. Having a 5 on your arm is better than having no women on your arm. Why do you think some guys bring their sisters and moms into clubs with them?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Guess I should have been clearer, those things are important for guys looking for a girlfriend/wife/sex. If a girl is overweight, the guy doesn't like it. If a girl is over 30 looking to get married, the guy doesn't like it and she is almost done. If a girl doesn't look good, the guy doesn't like it. These things are just my experience, could differ with others.bigneil said:Interesting that Trump doesn't list his age (recommended by mods a while back to put questions/advice in perspective).
For me, 41 was my best age. I regularly pick up women in their 20's. If you stay in shape you can improve with age. I've dated 8 hot girls in the past 2 years (and only had to pay 2). When you are making $90 an hour running your own business they want to get married even if you are over 30, trust me.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.