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Embarassing Sex Problem - Need advice

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Basically I'm 18 years old and a virgin and I have been dating this girl who has had a lot of sexual experience for a while. She has had a lot of sexual experience, I can fit three fingers in her pvssy no problem. She knows I was a virgin and both times we fvcked I was drunk. The last time we fvcked (yesterday), I was drunk and I had problems staying hard. Like when she went down on me I got hard but I lost it as soon as she stopped. I wasn't even hard enough to push my way into her pvssy. We eventually gave up - each time I got hard I lost it, even when I was inside her a few times. I don't know what it is, we thought it was whiskey ****, but I don't know. I'm almost afraid to try it sober because it'll prove that it wasn't. I've always been self conscious, but I got over it and have been pretty successful, but I guess when I'm intimate with a girl it comes back. I feel self conscious around her - she's had a lot of experience and she was my first, so I don't really know what I'm doing and it's intimidating. I just can't relax, I don't know what the hell is wrong with me.

Oh my god, I feel so ****ing embarassed and ashamed. Seriously. I can't even get hard enough to fvck the girl that I've been dating. Even though she was totally understanding and a sport about it, I've never felt this embarassed and humiliated and even emasculated. What the hell can I do? Is this normal to have this kind of preformance anxiety when thsi is my second time? I want to fvck her but my body won't obey me. Can anyone help me out? I feel so hopeless about this.
 

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Chances are it's just whiskey d!ck bro, so I wouldn't even trip. I'm assuming you're still young, so I doubt it's an ED. It also could be the fact she's loose. I mean 3 fingers is nothing to really brag about.. =X
 
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Yeah, but I don't know. I feel like its almost psychological and I'm afraid its just going to happen when I'm sober again. If its worth mentioning I masturbated six hours before so that I would last longer. I don't know though I'm just new to the whole sex thing.

Jesus this feels bad. I've been thinking about using viagra or something. Would that be weird?
 

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You don't even know for sure yet, chances are it's just WD. I'm 19 and there's been times I was simply just "too drunk to fvck". It happens, doesn't mean I have an ED. Seriously, just try fvcking her sober, and the most important thing RELAX. It helps you last longer too.

If worse comes to worst then go see a doctor. That way if you do need viagra or something similar it's properly prescribed.
 
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Scars said:
You don't even know for sure yet, chances are it's just WD. I'm 19 and there's been times I was simply just "too drunk to fvck". It happens, doesn't mean I have an ED. Seriously, just try fvcking her sober, and the most important thing RELAX. It helps you last longer too.

If worse comes to worst then go see a doctor. That way if you do need viagra or something similar it's properly prescribed.
I know its easy to say "just relax" but how? Are there any exercises I can do or something? How do you relax when you're ****ing?
 

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I mean relax by lowering your anxiety. If you worry too much then you won't perform at your best. Also remember to BREATHE.
 

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Which part of town are you two? You are drinking at 18 and 19?

One thing I would suggest you do is instead of masturbating yourself, let her do the masturbation to you.
 

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This is a 100% psychological and nothing to worry about. Like everybody told you: relax. And you relax by taking a lot of time for foreplay. Don't focus on your own d*ck: "Is it hard yet? Oh no, it's not! What do I do? Get hard! Get hard!" That way it won't work.

Focus on her. On her body, breasts, p*ssy, etc. Go down on her.

Take time for the foreplay. It gives you time to relax, and btw women love foreplay.
 

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hey man, don't masturbate beforehand. i had this a while ago and got rid of it by 1. not masturbating that day
and 2. relaxing and just enjoying the moment
 

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Your having performance anxiety. You can't just "relax" If you could just relax on cue then you wouldnt be here posting. I would recommend getting some cilais pills. All you need is a few successful experiences to build upon and you'll be fine. I'm sure some people will say you'll get dependent on them but you won't. All your trying to do here is just save yourself from a negative anxiety spiral and the best way to start that is with some good experiences. So buy some cilais pills. In the mean while get a sample of these to hold you http://www.rockhardweekend.com/ . Pm if you want any more info.
 
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EFFORT said:
Your having performance anxiety. You can't just "relax" If you could just relax on cue then you wouldnt be here posting. I would recommend getting some cilais pills. All you need is a few successful experiences to build upon and you'll be fine. I'm sure some people will say you'll get dependent on them but you won't. All your trying to do here is just save yourself from a negative anxiety spiral and the best way to start that is with some good experiences. So buy some cilais pills. In the mean while get a sample of these to hold you http://www.rockhardweekend.com/ . Pm if you want any more info.

Can you pick these up at a regular gas station? Like a Shell? I'm considering this.
 
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