"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Embarassing Sex Problem - Need advice

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As you can tell, I made an alt account for this.

Basically I'm 18 years old and a virgin and I have been dating this girl who has had a lot of sexual experience for a while. She has had a lot of sexual experience, I can fit three fingers in her pvssy no problem. She knows I was a virgin and both times we fvcked I was drunk. The last time we fvcked (yesterday), I was drunk and I had problems staying hard. Like when she went down on me I got hard but I lost it as soon as she stopped. I wasn't even hard enough to push my way into her pvssy. We eventually gave up - each time I got hard I lost it, even when I was inside her a few times. I don't know what it is, we thought it was whiskey ****, but I don't know. I'm almost afraid to try it sober because it'll prove that it wasn't. I've always been self conscious, but I got over it and have been pretty successful, but I guess when I'm intimate with a girl it comes back. I feel self conscious around her - she's had a lot of experience and she was my first, so I don't really know what I'm doing and it's intimidating. I just can't relax, I don't know what the hell is wrong with me.

Oh my god, I feel so ****ing embarassed and ashamed. Seriously. I can't even get hard enough to fvck the girl that I've been dating. Even though she was totally understanding and a sport about it, I've never felt this embarassed and humiliated and even emasculated. What the hell can I do? Is this normal to have this kind of preformance anxiety when thsi is my second time? I want to fvck her but my body won't obey me. Can anyone help me out? I feel so hopeless about this.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Chances are it's just whiskey d!ck bro, so I wouldn't even trip. I'm assuming you're still young, so I doubt it's an ED. It also could be the fact she's loose. I mean 3 fingers is nothing to really brag about.. =X
 
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Yeah, but I don't know. I feel like its almost psychological and I'm afraid its just going to happen when I'm sober again. If its worth mentioning I masturbated six hours before so that I would last longer. I don't know though I'm just new to the whole sex thing.

Jesus this feels bad. I've been thinking about using viagra or something. Would that be weird?
 
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You don't even know for sure yet, chances are it's just WD. I'm 19 and there's been times I was simply just "too drunk to fvck". It happens, doesn't mean I have an ED. Seriously, just try fvcking her sober, and the most important thing RELAX. It helps you last longer too.

If worse comes to worst then go see a doctor. That way if you do need viagra or something similar it's properly prescribed.
 
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Scars said:
You don't even know for sure yet, chances are it's just WD. I'm 19 and there's been times I was simply just "too drunk to fvck". It happens, doesn't mean I have an ED. Seriously, just try fvcking her sober, and the most important thing RELAX. It helps you last longer too.

If worse comes to worst then go see a doctor. That way if you do need viagra or something similar it's properly prescribed.
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I know its easy to say "just relax" but how? Are there any exercises I can do or something? How do you relax when you're ****ing?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I mean relax by lowering your anxiety. If you worry too much then you won't perform at your best. Also remember to BREATHE.
 
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Which part of town are you two? You are drinking at 18 and 19?

One thing I would suggest you do is instead of masturbating yourself, let her do the masturbation to you.
 
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This is a 100% psychological and nothing to worry about. Like everybody told you: relax. And you relax by taking a lot of time for foreplay. Don't focus on your own d*ck: "Is it hard yet? Oh no, it's not! What do I do? Get hard! Get hard!" That way it won't work.

Focus on her. On her body, breasts, p*ssy, etc. Go down on her.

Take time for the foreplay. It gives you time to relax, and btw women love foreplay.
 
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hey man, don't masturbate beforehand. i had this a while ago and got rid of it by 1. not masturbating that day
and 2. relaxing and just enjoying the moment
 
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Your having performance anxiety. You can't just "relax" If you could just relax on cue then you wouldnt be here posting. I would recommend getting some cilais pills. All you need is a few successful experiences to build upon and you'll be fine. I'm sure some people will say you'll get dependent on them but you won't. All your trying to do here is just save yourself from a negative anxiety spiral and the best way to start that is with some good experiences. So buy some cilais pills. In the mean while get a sample of these to hold you http://www.rockhardweekend.com/ . Pm if you want any more info.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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EFFORT said:
Your having performance anxiety. You can't just "relax" If you could just relax on cue then you wouldnt be here posting. I would recommend getting some cilais pills. All you need is a few successful experiences to build upon and you'll be fine. I'm sure some people will say you'll get dependent on them but you won't. All your trying to do here is just save yourself from a negative anxiety spiral and the best way to start that is with some good experiences. So buy some cilais pills. In the mean while get a sample of these to hold you http://www.rockhardweekend.com/ . Pm if you want any more info.
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Can you pick these up at a regular gas station? Like a Shell? I'm considering this.
 
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