"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Embarassing evening

Kidd

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Yesterday, my friend was having this thing go down at his place. He invited about 7 people, guys and chicks.

By the time everyone showed up, I was pretty buzzed already and me and my friend had finished our 3rd cigar. Then I smoked some weed when the rest of the people came. I was messed up, but still knew what I was doing.

The girl I wanted to hook up with showed up. We start making out outside while everyone's inside. Later on, I ask her to go to the room with me.

We go to the room, lay down, make out, ect. The there's the problem; I couldnt get it really hard.

This was my 3rd time fvcking a girl and the first time this happened. It was difficult for me to get it hard. I got it hard enough to bone her for about 15 minutes made her come. BUT I COULDNT COME, even when she was blowing me.

I kept trying until i just got too tired and then we got dressed and left. I can tell the girl was upset at me, she was ignoring me for the rest of the evening. Even though it wasn't her fault, she thinks it is. I called her, we talked, but couldnt keep a decent conversation going, it was too awkward. I asked if she'd be interested in hooking up again, she said maybe. We'll see, because words dont mean much.

Then I lost it, and started getting all stupid and asking her how she felt, ect. She told me that she enjoyed it, even though I didnt come.

This is the first time something like this happened to me. I've been occasionally smoking cigarettes for about 3 months now, could that be why? Doubtful. I want this chick again, what actions should I take next?

Thanks for the help.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Smooth Player 056

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Was she really hot? Maybe it was performance anxiety wich definetly can affect your performance.

If you were able to have sex fine before you started getting stupid and smoking cigars and drinking, try not smoking or drinking before you have sex next time and see what happens.

missed the part about him drinking ^^^^^^^
 
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Yeah man, seems like it was the alcohol and weed that did it to you. Once you started being stupid with the girl (you should know better than that), you ruined the main chance you had.
 

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Hm.

Im pretty sure it was the booze/weed. I also felt pretty sick when I was doing her, and puked about 10 minutes after we finished.

I haven't lost her yet, if I play my cards right. Il know better next time, heh.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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It is DEFINATELY the drugs and alcohol that did it. It stops/reduces the amount of blood pumped to your ****.

"Then I lost it, and started getting all stupid and asking her how she felt, ect."
How is that losing it? If anything it's worse if you ask her if she wants to "hook up" than it is to ask her how she feels.
 

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Originally posted by The Master Disaster
I've been high/drunk and still got it up fairly quick
Everyone's different.

It was definitely the alcohol and weed. The cigars won't have any effect at all.
 

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weed can make your circulation get a little worse so if you'd just smoked weed thats probably why you couldnt get a boner
 

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Ok, it was settled. I still have the girl.

BEtter learn from my damn mistakes and not repeat em :eek:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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if she got off youll be fine.
just dont drink so much next time, weed actually helps me get boners easier.
 
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