Emailing

[PS79]

In the dating game and not online dating, how does e-mail come into play? You have both her number and e-mail address...

What do you talk about? How often should you e-mail? How quickly do you respond to one of her e-mails?

Sounds like stupid questions but it would clarify a lot for me and probably others...

 

[MotownMack]

To me, its just a way to keep in contact so you're still "in the picture", but really nothing more than that. In other words, I am too busy with other girls or not interested enough to call. I would suspect some women view this exactly the same way.

The thing you need to remember is that if moving things forward is your goal, this isn't really going to advance anything, and you shouldn't stay here. A military analogy would suit this well: It's more of way to "hold the line" until you are ready to make an assault. But know that you're not going to win the battle by not making an offensive charge at some point. It basically just buys you a little time.

 

[Mavrick]

With emails you reply when you want to reply. You don't reply instantly if you don't want to. The key is not to be too available. Also, don't say a whole lot or do it too often. Cut over to a phone conversation as soon as possible.

 

[SickAgain]

Whenever you feel like it. But you can find yourself in the friendzone quickly if you e-mail too much and say too much through e-mails. I'd do my best just to keep it light exchanging jokes and avoid getting into deeper stuff like politics and social mores.

 

[EricInTheHouse]

I agree with the others that keeping email light, and don't spam with emails.. don't get nervous if you don't get a quick response.

It is SO EASY to make yourself look bad in emails..SO EASY.. I once knew a girl online, and even though she was married, I really liked talking with her..she was great and I could relate on a lot of what she said.. However my little crush became obsessive and I constantly sent emails and got very defensive if I wasn't sent an email back.

After a while she got nervous and that was it.. I was intruding to far from the friend zone. There is a lot more to that story, but It was one of the most difficult things I went through in life, and I ended up hurting a lot of people online and offline..

Yeah.. keep emails limited..as for me I can't do one on one emails with anyone(on the internet)..I tried it, but I fall to close with online friends, and we can't meet.. I can't handle that, so I am very strict with myself when I do email with someone online.