Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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mrblue

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So I just broke up with my GF and there is this awesome girl at work that I started emailing with. We were work friends, though we never hung out and saw each other socially maybe once or twice in the past 3 years of working together. We work for a big company and she is in a different building.

Anyways, I email her to see how she is doing. She writes back and asks how I am and how my gf is (she knows I had a gf). I write back that I just broke up with my gf. She writes back that she just broke up with her bf. Anyways, I figure nothing ventured nothing gained and decide to see if she wanted to try this restaurant with me. She writes back and says great, lets do it and when I wanted to go. I think awesome and write her this morning that we should do it next tuesday or wed. I write her at like 8 in the morning and she still hasn't responded. The past few emails she always responded in about 3 hours. I know she was at work today cause my boy sits close to her.

So what gives? Should I write her tomorrow and see if she saw my email?

Thanks a lot
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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dav22

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A girl not replying to an email within 3 hours shouldn't be setting off alarm bells, hopefully it just means she has a life. Wait it out and see, don't start making follow up emails until at least a few days after cause that's gonna make you seem a bit desperate :p

Edit: Just read she was at work. Either way still wait it out, at worst it could just be a test to see how needy you are.
 

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mrblue said:
So I just broke up with my GF and there is this awesome girl at work that I started emailing with. We were work friends, though we never hung out and saw each other socially maybe once or twice in the past 3 years of working together. We work for a big company and she is in a different building.

Anyways, I email her to see how she is doing. She writes back and asks how I am and how my gf is (she knows I had a gf). I write back that I just broke up with my gf. She writes back that she just broke up with her bf. Anyways, I figure nothing ventured nothing gained and decide to see if she wanted to try this restaurant with me. She writes back and says great, lets do it and when I wanted to go. I think awesome and write her this morning that we should do it next tuesday or wed. I write her at like 8 in the morning and she still hasn't responded. The past few emails she always responded in about 3 hours. I know she was at work today cause my boy sits close to her.

So what gives? Should I write her tomorrow and see if she saw my email?

Thanks a lot
Might be planning a bit too far in advance? I'd call her in two days and ask her if she still wants to go (without acknowleding the unaswered e-mail)
 
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