"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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mrblue

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So I just broke up with my GF and there is this awesome girl at work that I started emailing with. We were work friends, though we never hung out and saw each other socially maybe once or twice in the past 3 years of working together. We work for a big company and she is in a different building.

Anyways, I email her to see how she is doing. She writes back and asks how I am and how my gf is (she knows I had a gf). I write back that I just broke up with my gf. She writes back that she just broke up with her bf. Anyways, I figure nothing ventured nothing gained and decide to see if she wanted to try this restaurant with me. She writes back and says great, lets do it and when I wanted to go. I think awesome and write her this morning that we should do it next tuesday or wed. I write her at like 8 in the morning and she still hasn't responded. The past few emails she always responded in about 3 hours. I know she was at work today cause my boy sits close to her.

So what gives? Should I write her tomorrow and see if she saw my email?

Thanks a lot
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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dav22

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A girl not replying to an email within 3 hours shouldn't be setting off alarm bells, hopefully it just means she has a life. Wait it out and see, don't start making follow up emails until at least a few days after cause that's gonna make you seem a bit desperate :p

Edit: Just read she was at work. Either way still wait it out, at worst it could just be a test to see how needy you are.
 

tsmith2334

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mrblue said:
So I just broke up with my GF and there is this awesome girl at work that I started emailing with. We were work friends, though we never hung out and saw each other socially maybe once or twice in the past 3 years of working together. We work for a big company and she is in a different building.

Anyways, I email her to see how she is doing. She writes back and asks how I am and how my gf is (she knows I had a gf). I write back that I just broke up with my gf. She writes back that she just broke up with her bf. Anyways, I figure nothing ventured nothing gained and decide to see if she wanted to try this restaurant with me. She writes back and says great, lets do it and when I wanted to go. I think awesome and write her this morning that we should do it next tuesday or wed. I write her at like 8 in the morning and she still hasn't responded. The past few emails she always responded in about 3 hours. I know she was at work today cause my boy sits close to her.

So what gives? Should I write her tomorrow and see if she saw my email?

Thanks a lot
Might be planning a bit too far in advance? I'd call her in two days and ask her if she still wants to go (without acknowleding the unaswered e-mail)
 
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