em, what the hell ?

[Tartofour]

I look around for advice is given and it is always something life control her, control the relationship, do not show jealousy. It says play Gangi. It almost gets to the point of saying, control everything, do not show you care, do not show any weakness whatsoever ! They say play

Isn't there supposed to be a sort of dependence between the two people in a couple. Isn't there supposed to be a sort of sharing of one's emotions and therof showing your vulnerabilites ot the other becase the other cares about you?

For the few days I've visited, it seemes to me like this was tactical wafare, strategic plans and political techniques (well, maybe skip the politics, thats pushing it) in dealing with a girl. Isn't there supposed to be a level of trust established where you don't have to hide, play Gangi or, almost, "exploit" weaknesses from your partner....

 

[Vincent]

What? I don't see what point your trying to make, or what question your asking, please elaborate.

 

[Cheatz]

Mackin chicks isn't rocket science, don't think there's a set of rules and boundaries you must abide by. Don't think "well if so and so said it's bad to do this then i shouldn't do it." think of the djbible as a guideline more of than a dictation of your high school life.

Why would you think that we're "suppose" to have a level of trust or equal dependance between a couple? Last time I checked we arn't living in a communist country, except china .

So try and avoid thinking boundary aspect terms like "should", "supposed to", "have to" etc. and think more freely

 

[Eventide]

Welcome to high school. Thats practically all there is to it.

Besides, the "tactics" are mainly for the chase. In my opinion, at least.

 

[oakraiderz2]

You my sir are an idiot. Youre like a Dj fundamentalists. Stop twisting all the ideas around and complicating them. Take them as they are as a guideline. If you cant understand this then...tough shyt

 

[blienk]

I think you're just a little confused about what people are saying. First of all, as some other posters have alluded to, many of the tactics discussed here are for attracting the girl, not maintaining a relationship with her. The idea is, if you attract the right girls, the relationship part comes easy.

Secondly, I think you're taking the control stuff a bit too literally. When we say put yourself in control of the relationship, what we really mean is don't let the girl jerk you around. If she expects you to cater to her every second, you have to show her you won't stand for it. If she's going to constantly flirt with other guys and leave you wondering what's going on, you have to show her you're not gonna give a **** and just move on to the next girl. The real issue of control here is not letting your girl control your life.

 

[wh01987]

you sound gay

 

[Tartofour]

you sound gay too, wh01987

and oakraiderz2, I'm sorry if I only interpret what I see. It is only because when someone tells a story in a post, people analyse the bad things that person has done and it sounds alot like there is no alternative sometimes. Tought shyt if I can't ask a question without being insulted.