Elite Advice Wanted: I Keep Missing Green Lights with Women

[Bolt_nayak]

Hello G's!

I live in a city where I often meet girls — at the metro, at the gym, and even on the street. I also visit therapy centers, where I sometimes cross paths with women.


Recently, there have been two specific situations I can’t stop thinking about, and I feel like I need guidance on how to handle them better in the future:


1. The physiotherapy clinic situation:
I visited a physiotherapy clinic recently and met a girl who works there as an assistant therapist. She’s new to this city, and I’m a local. I started a light conversation with her, asking about the therapy machines, where she’s from, and whether she has explored the city yet. She told me she’s from another state, hasn’t explored the city at all, and has no friends here. She lives in a PG (so she can go out whenever she wants).


The thing is, I really wanted to ask her name and maybe offer to show her around, but I froze. I didn’t know how to escalate the situation without coming off as awkward or pushy. I left feeling frustrated that I didn’t even take the first step.


2. The metro station situation:
At a metro station, I saw a girl who caught my eye. She actually came and stood near me, even though the train wasn’t crowded, which felt like a clear sign of interest. But I completely ignored her. When my station came, I just left without saying a word.


It’s been two days, and I still regret not saying anything.



I think I’m getting in my own way here. I want to change this pattern and be able to act confidently in these situations.


Where exactly am I getting stuck?
How can I improve my mindset, my communication, and my ability to take action when I meet women like this?


Any practical tips, mindsets, or habits I can adopt would be a huge help.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Women are social human beings who enjoy talking and connecting for fun. You should frame interactions with women as simply having a conversation. Right now, you’re putting too much pressure and expectation on yourself, like putting the cart before the horse.

Number 1 is tricky because hitting on service workers can be difficult and awkward since they have to be there for work, they have to keep it proffesional, and can’t easily leave or walk away from the interaction.

 

[BPH]

You don't need "Elite Advice", you just need to grow some balls and make a move.

If you can't do that yet, force yourself to. Apply the 3-second rule: once you see a woman you find attractive, approach her within 3 seconds before you mentally talk yourself out of it. Repeat until no longer a pus*y.

 

[MatureDJ]

Hello G's!

I live in a city where I often meet girls — at the metro, at the gym, and even on the street. I also visit therapy centers, where I sometimes cross paths with women.


Recently, there have been two specific situations I can’t stop thinking about, and I feel like I need guidance on how to handle them better in the future:


1. The physiotherapy clinic situation:
I visited a physiotherapy clinic recently and met a girl who works there as an assistant therapist. She’s new to this city, and I’m a local. I started a light conversation with her, asking about the therapy machines, where she’s from, and whether she has explored the city yet. She told me she’s from another state, hasn’t explored the city at all, and has no friends here. She lives in a PG (so she can go out whenever she wants).


The thing is, I really wanted to ask her name and maybe offer to show her around, but I froze. I didn’t know how to escalate the situation without coming off as awkward or pushy. I left feeling frustrated that I didn’t even take the first step.


2. The metro station situation:
At a metro station, I saw a girl who caught my eye. She actually came and stood near me, even though the train wasn’t crowded, which felt like a clear sign of interest. But I completely ignored her. When my station came, I just left without saying a word.


It’s been two days, and I still regret not saying anything.



I think I’m getting in my own way here. I want to change this pattern and be able to act confidently in these situations.


Where exactly am I getting stuck?
How can I improve my mindset, my communication, and my ability to take action when I meet women like this?


Any practical tips, mindsets, or habits I can adopt would be a huge help.

I would only start macking a chick that somehow got her teats to get pressed upon me. Chicks know how to not impress their mams on a guy if they don't want to.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Use the "elderly opener" OP. Ask a question you would to a complete stranger you have no ulterior motive with, then use it on the chick you're targeting.

A quote from Day Bang

The elderly opener is an innocuous question related to some type of prop or unique feature in the environment you’re both sharing. It’s open-ended enough...

www.goodreads.com

Elderly Opener works

So, I got a call today from an old man with the wrong phone number...10 friggin minutes later we were talking about what I do for work. He elderly opened me! Again, it worked with being openly confuse

rooshvforum.network

Psychotherapy girl quick example - comment on the weather and mention how good/bad it is for walking around and seeing the sights around town

Metro girl example - as her how often the particular train you're waiting for is late.

If these chicks are indeed interested, they should make conversation easy (even if they have autism their responses will be awkward but you should at least be able to tell they are making an effort)

 

[Divorced w 3]

There’s nothing pushy or awkward about getting someone’s name. The awkward part is not telling her your name because that’s the normal thing to do. Simply say, I’m ’BDE’ and put your hand out, and smile - proceed from here

This isn’t elite advice it’s normal human behavior

I actually handed a girl my phone once and just said throw your number in, on the train. I shyt you not I didn’t say anything other than the train ride was a disaster, she laughed and I swear on my life she put the number in the phone

In general if you want to open someone, you have to be in a good frame of mind. I’ve always had success with strangers when I’m exuding positive energy myself. Think about those weird looking pick up artists back in the day. They were ugly. But they were having a great time. They radiated it. As long as your almost going to laugh yourself, whatever comes out it probably going to work.

I told some chick that I wanted to open that it was bs the women’s soccer team was getting equal pay with a smile and she laughed.

Almost anything works. It’s the delivery.

 

[Divorced w 3]

1. The physiotherapy clinic situation:
I visited a physiotherapy clinic recently and met a girl who works there as an assistant therapist. She’s new to this city, and I’m a local. I started a light conversation with her, asking about the therapy machines, where she’s from, and whether she has explored the city yet. She told me she’s from another state, hasn’t explored the city at all, and has no friends here. She lives in a PG (so she can go out whenever she wants).


The thing is, I really wanted to ask her name and maybe offer to show her around, but I froze. I didn’t know how to escalate the situation without coming off as awkward or pushy. I left feeling frustrated that I didn’t even take the first step.

I was at the gym this morning, which is similar, and had a chance to spit a little game so I thought I would share.

I’ve been at this gym for 6-7 years and I know the entire staff. So there’s a cute young new girl at the front counter who scans me in with a pleasant attitude and I say good morning. I go lift and I obviously look swole as fvck (bench, overhead press / kroc row & ab kicks superset) so swing back to the front counter because yesterday I forgot my shaker bottle and want to see if it’s there. I would have come back either way but that’s what got me to the front counter.

I ask the one girl I know, she Says she is going to look. She ends up leaving the area to look in the back. Told her not necessary but she goes. So then I see the target of my affection, she’s got those yoga pants on, she’s got dark hair, smile, tan, got that shirt up just enough to see her navel, I am in love.

So I say to her, with a smile, “you know, Mike can do this job by himself”… she starts laughing hard and she goes “oh I completely believe it”.. Mike is this 50 year old short guy with the energy of a rabbit who’s only there at 5:30 am -7am working the door on weekdays bc he’s the floor manager. Notice how inherently I displayed status without saying it out loud.

so my future ex wife turns around and gets back to work. I call out to her “I was only kidding” / she turns around and laughs again and we’re both smiling at each other.

I immediately think of OP, I say “are you new here?” She goes “well, not new but I worked here when I was home from school, part time” … so I say “but not part time anymore “- and she says “no I’m here full time now, I’m out of school”. (JACKPOT)....: more smiles from her, I smile back … so I’m thinking, okay do I just pull her pants down and just start eating her out right there (down boy).. anyway so I’m like “well nice to meet you I am BDE” … she goes, with a smile “nice to meet you”

notice she did NOT give me her name … have to use intuition on this now, because with all that laughing and smiling she most likely, simply was just in her own head, and not being rude

HOWEVER, displaying value, and push/pull, are paramount in the early stages of flirting. So, the other woman comes back and she didn’t have what I needed.( I was so enamored with this girls body I didn’t even hear her the first time - see how it happens to the best of us?) so I say ok no worries I will see you tomorrow

now, when I leave, I walk by my angel and I do not look at her and I do not say goodbye - you have to understand that you have to pull away and her last action, intended or not, was exactly that

what do you think happens - in a raised, high pitch voice she calls out to me “it was great meeting you BDE” she used my name

so I say back, it was great meeting you too, what’s your name ? She says “I’m Lauren”

so I tell her to have a great morning and I adios

I did not go for the number, I’m there daily, it'll come

in my humble opinion? That is how you work a flirt game in a location that you frequent, and likely have a parallel situation to the one I did.

 

[Bokanovsky]

Psychotherapy girl quick example - comment on the weather and mention how good/bad it is for walking around and seeing the sights around town

I believe he's talking about physiotherapy, not psychotherapy. I would not recommend a psychotherapy clinic as a pickup spot!

 

[Styr]

I believe he's talking about physiotherapy, not psychotherapy. I would not recommend a psychotherapy clinic as a pickup spot!

Psycho the rapist is even worse. Would not recommend.