Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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ehhh to call or not to call...that is the question!

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I recieved a phone call from a girl about an hour and a half ago and its a girl that has been sorta distant with me lately..

I answered "Hello" She said "heyyyy what are you doin"

I responded "Im on a bike trip" (I probably sounded a tad outta breath)

She asked if she should call back later and I said " No, what did ya need?"

She replied " Ill just call back later " I replied with a bit of a laugh "alright" and she hungup.


Im assuming I came off as an *******....should I wait for her to call back or just call her back in a bit and apologize for sounding like. an ass....in my experience girls never call back unless they are in a relationship with you.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Don't appologise just be polite and don't give her the power by being too nice.
 

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Don't appologise just be polite and don't give her the power by being too nice.
Should I call her ? Or wait for a phone call that most likely isnt going to come to me....even though she said "Ill call you later"
 

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pvf94 said:
Should I call her ? Or wait for a phone call that most likely isnt going to come to me....even though she said "Ill call you later"
You could call her and use the excuse that you'll be busy later. Thats if you think she isn't going to call you back.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Well to start, you fukked up the initial call.

When she said, "I just call back later", you should have said sterner, "What did you want? (Like you were getting annoyed)


I say that because it's obvious you want to talk this girl and you ruined your opportunity to capitalize when you had the upper hand.

Anywho, don't call. Especially if she has a habit of not picking up. If you MUST contact her, do so with a text. If she doesn't respond, you have your answer.
 

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The whole thing is I truly came off as a ****, and I didn't mean to I was just in a weird mood. And my choice of wording showed that.
 

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You did absolutely NOTHING wrong that you should apologize for. You were on a bike ride and she said she will call you back and if she does not call, don't sweet it. In situations as such, instead of allowing her to make decisions whether to contact you back or not, you should have been making the decision. Simply put, you should have told her. "I'm on a bike ride. Let me call you back when I get home." In this case, you can call her whenever you want. Remember, it is harder for ladies to pick the phone and just talk to someone they are "unsure" off. Just wait for her to call, and apologize for ANYTHING. Tell her how much she missed the bike ride... that is all.

-Best of lucks
 

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amoka said:
You did absolutely NOTHING wrong that you should apologize for. You were on a bike ride and she said she will call you back and if she does not call, don't sweet it. In situations as such, instead of allowing her to make decisions whether to contact you back or not, you should have been making the decision. Simply put, you should have told her. "I'm on a bike ride. Let me call you back when I get home." In this case, you can call her whenever you want. Remember, it is harder for ladies to pick the phone and just talk to someone they are "unsure" off. Just wait for her to call, and apologize for ANYTHING. Tell her how much she missed the bike ride... that is all.

-Best of lucks
What is the purpose of not apologizing for being an a jerk? I see it as me being an a jerk for no reason...she just got caught me at a bad time....oh and by the way the reason she called me was because she had 2 tickets to a concert and wanted to invite me....said I was the first person she called. I DID apologize for throwing out a bad vibe...and all I got out of it was a free concert and a night with her.

She thanked me for calling and said everything is ok and that she looks forward to seeing me on Friday night.

I dunno couldn't of been that bad...I just went with my gut feeling...I was an honest d1ck and she only wanted to do something nice for me so it could not of been that bad.
 
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