"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Ehh, kinda weird situation

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There's this girl now one year junior to me (I passed from O to A levels she's gonna complete it next year). She used to be in my last school and now I see her ocasionally. I'd call her an 8 (everone else says 6.5~7). Very friendly outgoing kinda girl (thats actually why I'm posting).

The plan is a plain, talk to her, get number, wait a few days, ask out, blah blah blah. Just one problem, she recognised me the first day at the new school and is so far the only one to not bring up the story of me geting expeled from the last school. I dont know what the **** her name is or anything else about her.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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If you do get to know her and are successful early on...you might want to try to casually clarify that you were expelled...you're saying she doesn't know? If you don't tell her, she sees that as lying; decietful. Good luck...
 
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LOL i got the record for suspensions satuday dententions and normal dententions in my middle school

i was almost expelled twice now everyone brings up the comment i yelled at a teacher "UR BLOWING THIS OUT OF PROPORTION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" almost smacked her but got held back by the three biggest guys in the class


well long story short i had to get a psych exam and 6 months worth of consoling (for the 1st 2 months i had this one guy that let me play darts so it wasnt to bad till months 3+)
 

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This is more of field report I supose. I'm prety sure she knows I was expelled but being the sunshine girl she is didnt bring it up (it's my second expelation BTW, that she dont know). Was hoping for idea's on the fact that I dont know her name. Sample convo (yeah I'm desperate):

"Ey listen ,this is kinda embarasing but, what's your name again?" Crap bout why she left the old school. Split, get number see what hapens next week or so. I'm allways a little of-balance with the sunshine types but WTF see what hapens right.

There's another girl in the coaching I go to as well. ~6 bit of a nerd . That's for tomorow and I'll post up what hapens.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Field REPORT & UPDATE

Allright I was ~40 minutes late to class but there she was with some random ho near the entrance. She asks if some dude showed up yesterday I answer that, used the "fergot your name bit" and for the first time I saw her pissed of (somewhat).

Don't know if she was playing, goes "I dont have a name" and looks the other way. The gaurds being an amazingly nice guy so holds me back and we check the register (we got to sign in before coming in). I cant really make it out since her handwriting is worse than mine. So I'm making fun of her handwriting ask her why she left the last school. Just says "well the teachers werent that good". She's usually talktaive so I guess I pissed her off. I'm allready late for class so I leave.

20 minutes later I'm chiling with a bud waiting for the next class, when she passes by, I ask if she's upset or crap and no response (my bud says I got an "evil look" on her way out). OTOH a guy in my class was talking to her and random girl when I asked her again if she was offended and she just "Nah man I dont mind", sounded a bit upset but coulda been something else.
It's been a while since I mad a field report and I have a comments:

Should have just taken the number saying I got to get to class. Should have worked nicely last time. I'm not asking her out on the spot so need to wait for the last 10%.

I got to work on my comunication skills. I had no damn clue what to say (other than making fun of her handwriting)

NUMERO UNO thing I learned is this PRACTISE MAKES PERFECT. This is probably my 3/4th aproach in my whole lifetime but you now what? It's the VTEC point for me. Last time (arguably ages ago) I was pissing myself, hear beating strong enough to break my ribs. This time, no sweat.

All in all, it could have been better but I think its great practise if nothing else (I'll get her number day after and another girl tomorow).
 

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You dont wna ask too many gurls out man, you gta practise bein wit a gurl aswell, an they aint gna wna be with you if your askin loadsa honeys out!
Space it out, like if your doin okay with a gurl an workin on it, then just dont ask any other gurls, unless they show intrest, just stick to a gurl you like for atleast a week, an try an get somewhere!
 

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Thanks man

Didn't see sunshine yesterday but later on I got class with the other honey. I dont know **** all bout her. Need some advice.

There's about 30 people in the class and we been siting together for the last couple of days (came in late and it's front bench). I'm thinking I just ask if she wrote anything last class (I did my 'artwork' then) and see if I can hold a convo (which I suck at). Leave with the crew and ask for the #.

I got 3 peeps who'd prolly help me out somewhat, any advice apreciated.
 
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