Egotism. What a subject!
How to love yourself, take care of yourself and not become a self absorbed prick in the process?
I think this is a very important subject.
I'm gonna give you guys my view on the subject and would LOVE to see yours.
I think that egotism is something that is not ABSOLUT.
You are not either an egoist or a "giver" person, I think everyperson is somewhere in the middle between the two extremes, a total self absorbed egoist bastard and a self sacrificing jesus christ.
As I see it, both ends are bad for YOU and the people around you.
If you only think of yourself, lie, steal, don't keep commitments and do absolutely what YOU need/want every second, you are gonna pay it off. Not with karma or in hell, but it's gonna come back to you on this life. And I don't think you are gonna have a happy relationships with people because you can't GIVE at all.
On the other side, if you never consider your interests, you are gonna be VERY unhappy, be a *****, get nowhere in life, etc.
I think the key here is decide in the situations which path to take and why you are taking it and be sure of yourself.
I'm gonna give you an example.
A couple of months ago my father invited me to go to a mini vacations trip to Cordoba (in Argentina, I'm from Buenos Aires).
My father had a seizure a couple of months ago, I feared for his life, so when I said "no" I couldn't stop feeling guilty about my choice, her wife got mad at me, he didn't like it.
I said no because I needed to study for college (had a test coming soon). I talked to a lot of people about what they would do. Some said "think of yourself, study hard for the test, that's gonna be good for you and in the end, you are gonna make your father happy because of your success." Other said I should go cause my father almost died some time ago and it could be our last vacation together.
What did I do? I let my guilt decide for me and I went without really wanting to.
What did I discover? You are not egoist or self - sacrificing, you sometimes act one way, others the other and you have to chose for yourself the best course of action and then don't care about what people say.
Anyway, whatcha guys think?
How to love yourself, take care of yourself and not become a self absorbed prick in the process?
I think this is a very important subject.
I'm gonna give you guys my view on the subject and would LOVE to see yours.
I think that egotism is something that is not ABSOLUT.
You are not either an egoist or a "giver" person, I think everyperson is somewhere in the middle between the two extremes, a total self absorbed egoist bastard and a self sacrificing jesus christ.
As I see it, both ends are bad for YOU and the people around you.
If you only think of yourself, lie, steal, don't keep commitments and do absolutely what YOU need/want every second, you are gonna pay it off. Not with karma or in hell, but it's gonna come back to you on this life. And I don't think you are gonna have a happy relationships with people because you can't GIVE at all.
On the other side, if you never consider your interests, you are gonna be VERY unhappy, be a *****, get nowhere in life, etc.
I think the key here is decide in the situations which path to take and why you are taking it and be sure of yourself.
I'm gonna give you an example.
A couple of months ago my father invited me to go to a mini vacations trip to Cordoba (in Argentina, I'm from Buenos Aires).
My father had a seizure a couple of months ago, I feared for his life, so when I said "no" I couldn't stop feeling guilty about my choice, her wife got mad at me, he didn't like it.
I said no because I needed to study for college (had a test coming soon). I talked to a lot of people about what they would do. Some said "think of yourself, study hard for the test, that's gonna be good for you and in the end, you are gonna make your father happy because of your success." Other said I should go cause my father almost died some time ago and it could be our last vacation together.
What did I do? I let my guilt decide for me and I went without really wanting to.
What did I discover? You are not egoist or self - sacrificing, you sometimes act one way, others the other and you have to chose for yourself the best course of action and then don't care about what people say.
Anyway, whatcha guys think?
