jtrain 289
Senior Don Juan
Can someone define the word ego and how you think its different from ****iness and confidence.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Ego
- Thread starter jtrain 289
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
jtrain 289
Senior Don Juan
no i mean the way we see ourselves not how other people see us. Like waht do you think and egotistic person would think off himself compared to a ****y person or a confident person ?
people look at us the way we look at ourselves. its all sub-conscious communication. we all have a means to subconsciously detect how a person feels about himself and we adopt it. So if you wanna know how people feel about you, look how you feel about yourself. if you wanna know how any other person feels about himself, look how you feel about him.
