"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Ego vs. Self-Esteem

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“if you could sleep with the most beautiful woman in the world but you could not tell anyone about it, would it still be as impressive?”
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Most men are very egocentric when it comes to their dating lives, so the answer for a lot of men would probably be no.

I came across this because I asked myself a question today...

What is the difference between self-esteem and ego?

It brought me to this webpage.

http://www.samuelthomasdavies.com/the-ego-vs-self-esteem/

Interesting read. :up:
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Self - esteem : Giving up instant gratification for your long term goals. Basically self control, willpower, etc

Ego: Instant gratification, impatience, fear of rejection, porn, fear of ridicule, comfort zone, witty comebacks, anger, revenge, etc
 
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Self-esteem is the value you place on yourself (good).

Ego is seeking validation from others. Or what value you believe others have towards you. (Bad)

A guy with good self-esteem, that gets blow-off by a chick, will have the attitude that it's her loss. I guy with an ego, will get butt hurt because he places too much value on her opinion of him.
 
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Wow, that blog is awesome. I love when people post little hidden nuggets of information. Thanks, OP.
 
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