"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Oh man. So I went to a party this weekend where 2 plates would be. That was a HUGE mistake. By the end I chose one and the other figured out we went home together. She came to my house and went in through the back deck ready to kick the others ass. I had to hold her by the wrist and restrain her as she hit me and the other hid upstairs. I kept saying I didn't want to call the cops as she would lose her kids if arrested.

This was nuts. She finally calmed down after we tussled for like 20 mins. I tried to get her to sober up in her car. She's been there for me through a ton of crap in my life and I felt bad. Really bad.

Hung out with the first one all day yesterday. She was supposed to go home, put on a dress so we could go out, and then she never came back or even contacted me.

I think I lost them both. Any ideas on what I should do? Yes I'm an idiot. Already reached out to the one who ghosted on me asking if she's okay, but beyond that I'm clueless.

Never go to a party with two plates. Ever. Fair warning.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Johnny Alias said:
Oh man. So I went to a party this weekend where 2 plates would be. That was a HUGE mistake. By the end I chose one and the other figured out we went home together. She came to my house and went in through the back deck ready to kick the others ass. I had to hold her by the wrist and restrain her as she hit me and the other hid upstairs. I kept saying I didn't want to call the cops as she would lose her kids if arrested.

This was nuts. She finally calmed down after we tussled for like 20 mins. I tried to get her to sober up in her car. She's been there for me through a ton of crap in my life and I felt bad. Really bad.

Hung out with the first one all day yesterday. She was supposed to go home, put on a dress so we could go out, and then she never came back or even contacted me.

I think I lost them both. Any ideas on what I should do? Yes I'm an idiot. Already reached out to the one who ghosted on me asking if she's okay, but beyond that I'm clueless.

Never go to a party with two plates. Ever. Fair warning.

If you would have called the cops YOU would have gone to jail for "restraining" a woman. It could have been worse.

Why would you be sad about losing a crazy b1tch?
 

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Lol. You'll be alright man. Avoid talking about this subject too either of them ever. Just pretend like this didn't happen, and don't bring the crazy one to social events where you actually know people, if she doesn't know how to pout with out making a huge scene.
 

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MillionBillionaire said:
If you would have called the cops YOU would have gone to jail for "restraining" a woman. It could have been worse.

Why would you be sad about losing a crazy b1tch?
Actually he would not have. He had a witness there that would have testified that she was attacking both of them.
 

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Actually he would not have. He had a witness there that would have testified that she was attacking both of them.
I would argue that it depends on the state that you live in. I went to jail for no reason because of a girl in M.N.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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MillionBillionaire said:
I would argue that it depends in the state that you live in. I went to jail for no reason because of a girl in M.N.
In some states, or even cities, both parties go to jail if there is any alleged physical altercation.
 

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How did you not spin this into a threesome? That's where you effed up...
 

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Non crazy said she was just hurting from the rejection and I shouldn't feel bad. Crazy had said it's okay if I'm seeing other chicks... But wasn't prepared to see me seeing another chick right in front of her.

Non crazy is totally MIA. I think crazy might have called her and they agreed I was bad news. **** me.

Thanks for advice given so far. The cop thing could have gone either way probably.

Thing is crazy was a regular thing and non crazy is flaky. Don't know what I was thinking. Damn I effed up.
 

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Johnny Alias said:
Non crazy said she was just hurting from the rejection and I shouldn't feel bad. Crazy had said it's okay if I'm seeing other chicks... But wasn't prepared to see me seeing another chick right in front of her.

Non crazy is totally MIA. I think crazy might have called her and they agreed I was bad news. **** me.

Thanks for advice given so far. The cop thing could have gone either way probably.

Thing is crazy was a regular thing and non crazy is flaky. Don't know what I was thinking. Damn I effed up.
Don't worry, man. Just make sure you move on asap. Once a third girl comes in the picture they'll both be scratching their heads.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Yeah I'll get another soon. Already have a few in the works. Never going to bring them to a social setting again. Just creates problems.

Wrote an email to crazy apologizing. I know she went nuts but she was hurt bad. Feel like a total douche. She's been there for me and I know she had feelings for me... Should have just left the party solo or never gone.
 
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