"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Effective method for a gloomy guy?

superchristx

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First lemme introduce myself. I am a 21 year old virgin, I beat my meat 2x a day... when I'm really busy. I also smoke pot every day, this is how its been for two, three years. I've had a few girlfriends and I ate their pussies, got head a few times but since I jack off so much I had could never or never felt that I could get it up for them. I have never told anyone this.

I'm a very serious, gloomy guy. I'm tall and (prolly) handsome, I have deepset eyes and I know I can be very intimidating. Emotionally I am filled with bitterness and when I get the feeling a woman doesnt appreciate me I forget her. If she says some dumb **** I forget her. Sorry if I've typed too much, I have more to say.

I'm quitting weed beacuse I find it makes me complacent about a life that doesnt satisfy me, I've cashed out my business and put away my bowl and scale. I've also been lifting my barbell everytime I get the urge to get stoned. I'm serious this time I want to change, I fully intend to enroll in the next bootcamp.

I guess my question is, I dont want to change who I am. I could act different when meeting women, but that would just piss me off, that she didnt want me for who I really am. Is there a guide or a school of thought that would be good for guys with a naturally serious, gloomy demeanor? I know dark guys can pick up chicks I just have no idea how.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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try posting in thte discussion because it will receive more views and after all this is the tips section
 

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I don't think you have to change who you are or what you believe in to meet women. However, it wouldn't kill you to try smiling a little more would it? I used to be really gloomy back when I was in High School because I suffered from horrible depression. Eventually I became completely fed up with it and decided I would change the way I was viewing the world. I try to take everything with a grain of salt and not take things too seriously. I feel so much better doing this and peoples reaction to me have obviously improved. Except for a select few, most people want to be around people that feel good and aren't depressed and gloomy all the time. Yet through this process I haven't changed who I am or my beliefs.
It's really hard not be gloomy with all the horrible **** that is going on in the world right now.
 
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