"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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ED after drinking too much

LateBloomer

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Yeah I think maybe there are some issues with the chemistry. She is pretty as a picture but she isn't my usual type. Very petite and girlish body whereas I usually go for curvy women. And she is a bit of a princess type so not at all dirty or crude.

I don't know about alcoholic. I've never seen her drunk. The times we've gone out she has 3-4 drinks. That is pretty standard for a long drinking session. And yeah she goes out all the time with colleagues and friends and eats and drinks as one does. Not really that uncommon in a big city where people tend to work hard and play hard. But yeah probably rules her out as girlfriend material.

But next time we hook up I will see if things go better.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Bingo-Player

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I had a similar situation a few months ago although i powered through and still smashed the HB , she wasn't " my type " but still the type every guy is going to bang no questions asked she caught me off guard and just came out the bathroom completely naked i was like wtf i'm not ready for this lol

But you know what worked for me telling HB to put some sexy underwear /lingerie back on ...... honestly she put this suspender thing on and my d1ck was up before she even finished putting all the clips together just from watching her ...... she asked if she did good and i pointed down and said what do you think

then she got on her knees and started sucking it without me saying anything .....that was sexy and good foreplay

Sometimes you just need to slow it down a bit , foreplay is important for women but to be honest she doesnt have to perform its even more important for us

Women have a poor perception of foreplay they think men don't really care about it , but its so important and is the foundation for good sex

FYI kissing is not foreplay , her grabbing your d1ck out of the blue is not foreplay

Foreplay starts way way earlier before your anywhere near a bed , subtle touches , innuendos , eye contact , what underwear does she have on

All of these tiny details go into our sub conscious and pave the way for strong erections good sex and nice nuts
 

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Performance anxiety, relax, get out of your head, happens to all of us, especially if you aren’t used to having sex with multiple women. Keep going.
 

mrgoodstuff

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Yeah I think maybe there are some issues with the chemistry. She is pretty as a picture but she isn't my usual type. Very petite and girlish body whereas I usually go for curvy women. And she is a bit of a princess type so not at all dirty or crude.

I don't know about alcoholic. I've never seen her drunk. The times we've gone out she has 3-4 drinks. That is pretty standard for a long drinking session. And yeah she goes out all the time with colleagues and friends and eats and drinks as one does. Not really that uncommon in a big city where people tend to work hard and play hard. But yeah probably rules her out as girlfriend material.

But next time we hook up I will see if things go better.
Drinks as in beer or wine? Or is it mixed drinks? Mixed drinks can have several shots per.
 

GT40

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Drink some water in between the alcohol drinks. Also fore play helps alot too. Take your time and dig in - Lead the encounter!!
Also, what vitamins if any do you take?? That's helps with ED as well
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Indiveber

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Best advice I can give is to not drink at all. I quit after reading this book called: Kick the Drink...Easily!
 

KindredSpiritzz

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why do you feel you have to keep up with her drinking? Drink at a pace that suits you. I dont drink much anymore, just over that phase of life and i hate hangovers so when i go out i drink what i want (usually coke) and if its a beer i'll drink at my own pace no matter how many shes downing. A lot of women like it if guys dont drink much but can still be fun. You worry to much about what she'll think, just be yourself and drink at a pace you like. Get a little viagra online at RO just in case and you wont have any problems
 

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lol..:rofl:
For me it is reverse; I become a hardcore porn star ever when I'm drunk and can continue for hours ha ha.
I guess I am an exception to the rule then..
I used to be that way. But as I passed 40, generally I need to stick to 1-2 drinks. Basically just enough to take the edge off and get buzzed but can't go too far.
 

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It depends. I can still get hard when drunk, but if it's under certain circumstances, I need to sleep first. Then I wake up in the middle of the night with an alcohol boner. Which is a boner where it's extra sensitive due to the alcohol content in my blood. I can **** for a long time then before orgasm.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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