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ED after drinking too much

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Yeah I think maybe there are some issues with the chemistry. She is pretty as a picture but she isn't my usual type. Very petite and girlish body whereas I usually go for curvy women. And she is a bit of a princess type so not at all dirty or crude.

I don't know about alcoholic. I've never seen her drunk. The times we've gone out she has 3-4 drinks. That is pretty standard for a long drinking session. And yeah she goes out all the time with colleagues and friends and eats and drinks as one does. Not really that uncommon in a big city where people tend to work hard and play hard. But yeah probably rules her out as girlfriend material.

But next time we hook up I will see if things go better.
 

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I had a similar situation a few months ago although i powered through and still smashed the HB , she wasn't " my type " but still the type every guy is going to bang no questions asked she caught me off guard and just came out the bathroom completely naked i was like wtf i'm not ready for this lol

But you know what worked for me telling HB to put some sexy underwear /lingerie back on ...... honestly she put this suspender thing on and my d1ck was up before she even finished putting all the clips together just from watching her ...... she asked if she did good and i pointed down and said what do you think

then she got on her knees and started sucking it without me saying anything .....that was sexy and good foreplay

Sometimes you just need to slow it down a bit , foreplay is important for women but to be honest she doesnt have to perform its even more important for us

Women have a poor perception of foreplay they think men don't really care about it , but its so important and is the foundation for good sex

FYI kissing is not foreplay , her grabbing your d1ck out of the blue is not foreplay

Foreplay starts way way earlier before your anywhere near a bed , subtle touches , innuendos , eye contact , what underwear does she have on

All of these tiny details go into our sub conscious and pave the way for strong erections good sex and nice nuts
 

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Performance anxiety, relax, get out of your head, happens to all of us, especially if you aren’t used to having sex with multiple women. Keep going.
 

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Yeah I think maybe there are some issues with the chemistry. She is pretty as a picture but she isn't my usual type. Very petite and girlish body whereas I usually go for curvy women. And she is a bit of a princess type so not at all dirty or crude.

I don't know about alcoholic. I've never seen her drunk. The times we've gone out she has 3-4 drinks. That is pretty standard for a long drinking session. And yeah she goes out all the time with colleagues and friends and eats and drinks as one does. Not really that uncommon in a big city where people tend to work hard and play hard. But yeah probably rules her out as girlfriend material.

But next time we hook up I will see if things go better.
Drinks as in beer or wine? Or is it mixed drinks? Mixed drinks can have several shots per.
 

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Alcohol ED provided you’ve had enough is the norm, not the exception.

I often let an ED episode get the better of me when I’ve drunk too much, it is pretty distressing as a man. However, I’ve had women not in the mood and dry. When they’re tired. You don’t suddenly think your woman is abnormal you’re like “ok she’s not in the mood”. We got a lot of pressure on us but boners are a funny thing.

the thing I keep getting is being too tired to fvck from work. Like literally no interest even if she gets sexy. Then, I sleep for 1 hour and wake up with a raging one and ravage her. There is no reason to it.

I kind of agree with speed dawg, it’s performance anxiety but more specifically, stress. Im not bothered ifI give a bad performance with my wife - she’s seen good, bad and ugly. It’s just being too stressed to think about boners.

anyway, I digress.

As for how you avoid, I just never try sex when I’m drunk as I know from long experience it’s often crap. The poster above who said the morning after - that’s the right time.

there’s nothing wrong with telling a chick that you’ve had a few too many to hump. As I say; it’s well known and pretty standard.

As for what you say now, don’t telegraph that you’re worried about it or apologise. You didn’t do anything wrong.

personally I think drinking is for fun, giggles, stupid stuff and sex is best stone cold sober. The IDEA of sex is great when drunk/high but it isn’t the reality.
 

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Drink some water in between the alcohol drinks. Also fore play helps alot too. Take your time and dig in - Lead the encounter!!
Also, what vitamins if any do you take?? That's helps with ED as well
 

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Best advice I can give is to not drink at all. I quit after reading this book called: Kick the Drink...Easily!
 

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why do you feel you have to keep up with her drinking? Drink at a pace that suits you. I dont drink much anymore, just over that phase of life and i hate hangovers so when i go out i drink what i want (usually coke) and if its a beer i'll drink at my own pace no matter how many shes downing. A lot of women like it if guys dont drink much but can still be fun. You worry to much about what she'll think, just be yourself and drink at a pace you like. Get a little viagra online at RO just in case and you wont have any problems
 

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For us men, our cvcks stay flacid. Alcohol bad.
lol..:rofl:
For me it is reverse; I become a hardcore porn star ever when I'm drunk and can continue for hours ha ha.
I guess I am an exception to the rule then..
 

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lol..:rofl:
For me it is reverse; I become a hardcore porn star ever when I'm drunk and can continue for hours ha ha.
I guess I am an exception to the rule then..
I used to be that way. But as I passed 40, generally I need to stick to 1-2 drinks. Basically just enough to take the edge off and get buzzed but can't go too far.
 

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It depends. I can still get hard when drunk, but if it's under certain circumstances, I need to sleep first. Then I wake up in the middle of the night with an alcohol boner. Which is a boner where it's extra sensitive due to the alcohol content in my blood. I can **** for a long time then before orgasm.
 
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