Eating a girl out

[FlexpertHamilton]

I've heard arguments on both sides in regards to this question: is it "pedastalizing" to eat out a girl?

Some will say its placing too much importance on her and making her gratification the focus of the sex rather than your yourself. Some guys will even say it's irrelevant if the girl cums or not and that her sexual attraction towards you is entirely a mind game.

Personally I do not agree with this... I love going down on a girl and I'll happily do it even on first dates. I like doing it mostly because it relieves some of the pressure to perform knowing that she already came, plus it increases the odds of getting a BJ to 100%. Maybe it is a bit tryhard but most girls have vocalized how impressed they were after I did it and I since I can't always make a girl nut from ****ing her alone, it seems no brainer to do it.

 

[derby1]

I always do it, I'm a giver when it comes to that.

every woman I've dined out on, still keeps in touch with me..


it is however important she swallows sometimes

 

[2Rocky]

I'm a fan of that particular maneuver. It is very intimate, and she has to be at ease for it to work. If she is not gushing in minutes you will know your technique isn't working or you need to do some work on her mind. It sets an ORAL precedent.

 

[SirBigBell]

I've heard arguments on both sides in regards to this question: is it "pedastalizing" to eat out a girl?

Some will say its placing too much importance on her and making her gratification the focus of the sex rather than your yourself. Some guys will even say it's irrelevant if the girl cums or not.

Personally I do not agree with this... I love going down on a girl and I'll happily do it even on first dates. I like doing it mostly because it relieves some of the pressure to perform knowing that she already came, plus it increases the odds of getting a BJ to 100%. Maybe it is a bit tryhard but most girls have vocalized how impressed they were after I did it and I since I can't always make a girl nut from ****ing her alone, it seems no brainer to do it.

Im very selective when it comes to giving birds head. I only do it after I get to know the girl well and when im also satisfied she is good hygienically and isnt getting creampied by some other guys. Dont fancy licking out remnants of another bull’s jizz.

My very first girlfriend as a teenager went on to get married to a beta provider from her church. I continued to give her creampies for few years afterwards. She would give me head but i wasnt reciprocating. She, her husband and kids eventually emigrated to Australia and that was the end of that chapter.

 

[Epimanes]

Its delicious and its part of what turns me on..... she has to be clean of course... but man is it yummy..i dont do it for her entirely i do it because i like it ..

 

[TheNewStyle123]

Definitely agree with all of this.

Relieves pressure to perform, makes her feel good and likely to want to keep coming back for more, and I tend to be a giver when it comes to that stuff too.

I think if you’re good at it and the woman really enjoys it, the fear of “putting her on a pedestal” is pretty null... unless of course she is not reciprocating..

 

[Velasco]

I'll eat her out as a way to skirt around resistance to getting fcked the first nite. After that, I'll do it if and when I feel like it.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

I've heard arguments on both sides in regards to this question: is it "pedastalizing" to eat out a girl?

Some will say its placing too much importance on her and making her gratification the focus of the sex rather than your yourself. Some guys will even say it's irrelevant if the girl cums or not and that her sexual attraction towards you is entirely a mind game.

Personally I do not agree with this... I love going down on a girl and I'll happily do it even on first dates. I like doing it mostly because it relieves some of the pressure to perform knowing that she already came, plus it increases the odds of getting a BJ to 100%. Maybe it is a bit tryhard but most girls have vocalized how impressed they were after I did it and I since I can't always make a girl nut from ****ing her alone, it seems no brainer to do it.

We don't see how going down on a woman would be considered "pedastalizing". Most men enjoy it, if not love it, women appreciate it and will 99% return the "favor".

It's a win-win from all angles. She gets pleasured, hopefully, comes, and men are the driving force making it happen.

Also, something very important to notate here, there are certain body scents, odors, and fluids that are very arousing for the opposite sex. This is just very primal to human beings.


Modern Man Advice

 

[Epimanes]

I don't care who you are.. how how awesome u think u can fvck with your dyck... 90% of women dont orgasm from intercourse.... some do and thats rare... most dont... and those that say they do are often pretending. Your tongue does a,wY better job of pleasing a woman than your dyck does in that way.

Not sayin they dont like it when you go to pound town.... cuz they do and it feels good for them.... so thats expected to be part of the menu... but nothin beats a good tongue lashing with some manual stimulation to go with it.... even better if you suckle on the clyt gently while u lick it and finger at the same time..... lips... tongue.. fingers... cant go wrong.... then she will be butter in your hands and go from there.... so delicious... lol..

 

[Velasco]

When I was a younger guy I was obsessed with making sure girlfriends had orgasms (as powerful as I could get them) every time with me. If I failed to make a woman I was seeing more than once or twice *** I felt like I'd dropped the ball.

I knew other guys I respected whose philosophies were "I don't really prioritize whether the girl cums or not, honestly. Sometimes she does, sometimes she doesn't." These weren't guys who didn't care about the strength of their relationships; they cared too. But for them, having the woman's orgasm as a "sometimes it's there, sometimes it's not" effect of sex was a lot more acceptable.

Yet as I've aged I've come more inline with my buddies views than my original ones.

I realized a lot of my original focus on "always make her ***, hard!" was out of a fear that if I didn't, a woman would become dissatisfied with the relationship and start to withdraw.

It turns out though that that isn't really the case.

It's not really the case at all.

Orgasms Satisfy Women; Lack of Orgasms Keeps Them Faithful

The more women orgasm from sex, the more satisfied with sex and their relationship they are. But the less of a protective effect sex has against other men… It's actually a bit more nuanced than the title. But the title is not wrong either. When I was a younger guy I was obsessed with making sure...

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[jimwho]

I like it on a pedestal, easier access but she could do a little yoga to help. Seriously though, I do it for me also.
I might be breaking the rules here being such a giver, but I don't abide by all the DJ rules anyway.
I'm more curious what woman would think if you "didn't" do Cunnilingus. Could be a deal breaker eventually .

 

[MoMoses]

I'm selfish in bed. Yeah, you can give me shiit about it, I don't care. But selfish as I am I almost never eat ***** and I don't care if the women comes or not. Again, don't care if you all disagree or call me an ape for being like this.

Most women don't care. They are turned on by me just taking them, using them and coming inside of them. Ofcourse, sometimes a woman will nag about it, but I don't have to see her anymore after this, so again... who cares? In my experience I can tell you this rarely happens. They all seem to come back for more, even though I didn't do jack shiit to get them off.

edit: a woman can enjoy sex without getting an orgasm. She can also get very aroused by getting a dominant man aroused. I think this has a lot to do with it.

However, when I fall in love with a woman and when I want to be in a relationship with her... things change. Then I do eat her out and then I do make an effort to get her to climax via intercourse. They get an orgasm and they are satisfied and happy in my arms afterwards. And do you know what? Does are the women who tend to flake on me afterwards. Those are the ones who picked up on the fact that I tried to please them in bed and they enjoyed it, but lost a bit of attraction for me. In a way it is needy to wanna try and please a woman in bed.

Controversial right?

I've noticed this many times before. This cannot be a coincidance. But yes, before anyone points this one out.. with the women I really like I probably made some more mistakes in terms of neediness and pleasing, so yeah, there's that. It's a package deal.

Women I don't try to please in bed = they keep chasing me, trying to get me. They sense that I didn't even made an effort, therefor I don't give a rat's ass if they stay with me or not. They know.

Women I try to please.. no women I DO please in bed = they know they got me. Why else would I do all this effort in trying to please them? They know I want them to stay with me.

This still boggles me. I wish it were the other way around. It works like this for us men, right? I'll always go back to that one girl who gives me these amazing BJ's..

 

[RickTheToad]

I've heard arguments on both sides in regards to this question: is it "pedastalizing" to eat out a girl?

Some will say its placing too much importance on her and making her gratification the focus of the sex rather than your yourself. Some guys will even say it's irrelevant if the girl cums or not and that her sexual attraction towards you is entirely a mind game.

Personally I do not agree with this... I love going down on a girl and I'll happily do it even on first dates. I like doing it mostly because it relieves some of the pressure to perform knowing that she already came, plus it increases the odds of getting a BJ to 100%. Maybe it is a bit tryhard but most girls have vocalized how impressed they were after I did it and I since I can't always make a girl nut from ****ing her alone, it seems no brainer to do it.

Once in a while. I'm not as interested in doing it much any more. I was more when I was younger.

 

[Zontyy]

About 3 times a week I’ll go down and get her to orgasm quick usually within 10 minutes. All other times I’m using what god intended.

I don’t find anything wrong with it. I would never eat out who sleeps around or is ****ing other guys.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

I don’t do that.

 

[bat soup]

I've heard arguments on both sides in regards to this question: is it "pedastalizing" to eat out a girl?

Some will say its placing too much importance on her and making her gratification the focus of the sex rather than your yourself. Some guys will even say it's irrelevant if the girl cums or not and that her sexual attraction towards you is entirely a mind game.

Personally I do not agree with this... I love going down on a girl and I'll happily do it even on first dates. I like doing it mostly because it relieves some of the pressure to perform knowing that she already came, plus it increases the odds of getting a BJ to 100%. Maybe it is a bit tryhard but most girls have vocalized how impressed they were after I did it and I since I can't always make a girl nut from ****ing her alone, it seems no brainer to do it.

Don't do it if she takes off her jeans and it smells like a fish market.

 

[manfrombelow]

Jesus Christ, instead of enjoying the pleasures of the flesh as it has always been a God-given gift to us human beings, you are sitting there wondering if eating a delicious puzzy is "pedestalizing" or not? Come on man, if it's not beta mindset, I don't know what is.

 

[FuzzX]

I do it on my wife's birthday, its a pretty big deal. We usually have ice-cream and cake too.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Flexpert,
Pretty much agree with Rick " I'm not as interested in doing it much any more. I was more when I was younger."When you first get interested in them you could eat it,after a while you will wish you had!

 

[gettinit]

Quite the contrary. It can put you on a pedestal. I have found that head gives the most mind bending orgasms to women. Add a couple fingers and some gspot stimulation and BOOM. After that, you can pretty much do things a hooker would punch you for trying.