"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Early Stages of Relationship (What should I do)

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Well it is true, all good things come to those that wait.

Met this girl like 6 months ago, got her number last day of class (5 months ago) texted her like a month. Been talking, went out to like a last second dinner about 2 weeks ago, talked to her all the time, I hung out with her last night . Drove around walked around on the beach at like 11, went back to her house, ended up in the jacuzzi making out ( I am proud of myself, I manned up and went for it) ended up cuddling on her couch until like 4am talking and making out ( told me that she liked me alot and there would be no way I would find myself on her couch with her if she didnt ) . So we are going to dinner tonight since we are both busy with school and work (I am also taking care of my very ill mother (cancer)) so give me a little timeline so I dont make a move to early or too soon.

Cliff Note Timeline
6 months ago - met girl
5 months ago - got girls number
1 months ago - texted her
1 weeks ago - late night last minute dinner
1 night ago - walk on the beach, jacuzzi, hook up
tonight - dinner (tenative)

what next

gimme timeline
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Think fun and all will be good. Don't dwell - have a great time. :)
 
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went to dinner nothing too fancy but it wasnt a cheap dinner either , talked nothing exciting to report, I am sure we could have taken it further but the folks were home for both of us and I dont really mind taking it slow.

I will keep you guys posted if you care, an d i am sure i will have more questions to come
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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"ended up cuddling on her couch until like 4am talking and making out "

^ No. You don't cuddle before sex. You cuddle AFTER sex. You make out, then you nail her, then you cuddle. This is a linear progression.
 
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yeah I didnt capitalize completely, but give me a little bit of time
 
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It sounds like you have done everything perfect. You've been patient and allowed the attraction to build, which can be an extremely powerful lure. She has already told you openly she likes you a lot and it sounds like you had one hell of a good time with her.

I'm assuming from the way you write that you consider her relationship material. In that case, just keep doing what you're doing about once, maybe twice a week and no more. The time you're apart is extremely important as it allows you both to focus on other priorities, keeps the relationship fresh and exciting, and leaves her wanting more. In this time, she will be thinking about you a lot, remembering your last date (so make it a good one) and eventually falling for you!

Sounds good so far, just don't overcrowd her and keep time for other priorities, such as your mother - which I'm very sorry to hear about by the way.
 
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Jariel said:
It sounds like you have done everything perfect. You've been patient and allowed the attraction to build, which can be an extremely powerful lure. She has already told you openly she likes you a lot and it sounds like you had one hell of a good time with her.

I'm assuming from the way you write that you consider her relationship material. In that case, just keep doing what you're doing about once, maybe twice a week and no more. The time you're apart is extremely important as it allows you both to focus on other priorities, keeps the relationship fresh and exciting, and leaves her wanting more. In this time, she will be thinking about you a lot, remembering your last date (so make it a good one) and eventually falling for you!

Sounds good so far, just don't overcrowd her and keep time for other priorities, such as your mother - which I'm very sorry to hear about by the way.
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Well thank you for everything. It kind of works out perfectly because we are both rather busy so I dont get to see her every day and on average I would say twice a week. As far as the time apart, should I still be talking to her all the time or can I go days without initiating contact (text, call)?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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