"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Early Stages of Relationship (What should I do)

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Well it is true, all good things come to those that wait.

Met this girl like 6 months ago, got her number last day of class (5 months ago) texted her like a month. Been talking, went out to like a last second dinner about 2 weeks ago, talked to her all the time, I hung out with her last night . Drove around walked around on the beach at like 11, went back to her house, ended up in the jacuzzi making out ( I am proud of myself, I manned up and went for it) ended up cuddling on her couch until like 4am talking and making out ( told me that she liked me alot and there would be no way I would find myself on her couch with her if she didnt ) . So we are going to dinner tonight since we are both busy with school and work (I am also taking care of my very ill mother (cancer)) so give me a little timeline so I dont make a move to early or too soon.

Cliff Note Timeline
6 months ago - met girl
5 months ago - got girls number
1 months ago - texted her
1 weeks ago - late night last minute dinner
1 night ago - walk on the beach, jacuzzi, hook up
tonight - dinner (tenative)

what next

gimme timeline
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Think fun and all will be good. Don't dwell - have a great time. :)
 
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went to dinner nothing too fancy but it wasnt a cheap dinner either , talked nothing exciting to report, I am sure we could have taken it further but the folks were home for both of us and I dont really mind taking it slow.

I will keep you guys posted if you care, an d i am sure i will have more questions to come
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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"ended up cuddling on her couch until like 4am talking and making out "

^ No. You don't cuddle before sex. You cuddle AFTER sex. You make out, then you nail her, then you cuddle. This is a linear progression.
 
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yeah I didnt capitalize completely, but give me a little bit of time
 
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It sounds like you have done everything perfect. You've been patient and allowed the attraction to build, which can be an extremely powerful lure. She has already told you openly she likes you a lot and it sounds like you had one hell of a good time with her.

I'm assuming from the way you write that you consider her relationship material. In that case, just keep doing what you're doing about once, maybe twice a week and no more. The time you're apart is extremely important as it allows you both to focus on other priorities, keeps the relationship fresh and exciting, and leaves her wanting more. In this time, she will be thinking about you a lot, remembering your last date (so make it a good one) and eventually falling for you!

Sounds good so far, just don't overcrowd her and keep time for other priorities, such as your mother - which I'm very sorry to hear about by the way.
 
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Jariel said:
It sounds like you have done everything perfect. You've been patient and allowed the attraction to build, which can be an extremely powerful lure. She has already told you openly she likes you a lot and it sounds like you had one hell of a good time with her.

I'm assuming from the way you write that you consider her relationship material. In that case, just keep doing what you're doing about once, maybe twice a week and no more. The time you're apart is extremely important as it allows you both to focus on other priorities, keeps the relationship fresh and exciting, and leaves her wanting more. In this time, she will be thinking about you a lot, remembering your last date (so make it a good one) and eventually falling for you!

Sounds good so far, just don't overcrowd her and keep time for other priorities, such as your mother - which I'm very sorry to hear about by the way.
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Well thank you for everything. It kind of works out perfectly because we are both rather busy so I dont get to see her every day and on average I would say twice a week. As far as the time apart, should I still be talking to her all the time or can I go days without initiating contact (text, call)?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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