"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Early Sexual Issues...

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A-Man2151

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I started dating my girlfriend a few months ago, and we just started having sex. We are 23, and she was a virgin. She was very apprehensive about starting a sexual relationship, but after she became more comfortable around me, decided she was ready. She would oftentimes be very self conscious and worry that she 'wouldn't be good at it', etc...but I kept reassuring her I wouldn't define our relationship by the first few times we had sex.

We are just about a 12 pack of condoms into the relationship now, and quite simply, sex does not feel good for her. She is a very tiny girl, and I would say I'm above average in size, and it is very painful for her. I keep telling her that it takes some time, especially since she was a virgin, but I feel like she is giving up, and her previous fears are coming true. To her credit, she is very persistent, and always wants to have sex, but is possibly getting frustrated that it's not getting better...which I don't know how to respond to.

I have had previous successful sexual relationships, so I am trying a bunch of different things to see what she likes, but I'm afraid she's getting into her mind that she's bad at sex, and it will never be good. She goes absolutely crazy when I go down on her, so it's not like she is incapable of being aroused, just apparently not through intercourse. Any suggestions on how I could keep her excited about doing it?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Make sure you warm her up a lot before sex. By that I mean lots of foreplay and make sure everything down there is nice and wet. You can even use your own lube if things become a problem. It may be that you are not sexually compatible, but try just working with what you have now. The fact that she has apprehensions will only add to the problem, so just take things very slow at first and make sure she is a well-oiled machine before you start plowing away. Get her to talk about what works and what doesn't so you can get a better idea of how to give it to her.
 
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