I started dating my girlfriend a few months ago, and we just started having sex. We are 23, and she was a virgin. She was very apprehensive about starting a sexual relationship, but after she became more comfortable around me, decided she was ready. She would oftentimes be very self conscious and worry that she 'wouldn't be good at it', etc...but I kept reassuring her I wouldn't define our relationship by the first few times we had sex.
We are just about a 12 pack of condoms into the relationship now, and quite simply, sex does not feel good for her. She is a very tiny girl, and I would say I'm above average in size, and it is very painful for her. I keep telling her that it takes some time, especially since she was a virgin, but I feel like she is giving up, and her previous fears are coming true. To her credit, she is very persistent, and always wants to have sex, but is possibly getting frustrated that it's not getting better...which I don't know how to respond to.
I have had previous successful sexual relationships, so I am trying a bunch of different things to see what she likes, but I'm afraid she's getting into her mind that she's bad at sex, and it will never be good. She goes absolutely crazy when I go down on her, so it's not like she is incapable of being aroused, just apparently not through intercourse. Any suggestions on how I could keep her excited about doing it?
We are just about a 12 pack of condoms into the relationship now, and quite simply, sex does not feel good for her. She is a very tiny girl, and I would say I'm above average in size, and it is very painful for her. I keep telling her that it takes some time, especially since she was a virgin, but I feel like she is giving up, and her previous fears are coming true. To her credit, she is very persistent, and always wants to have sex, but is possibly getting frustrated that it's not getting better...which I don't know how to respond to.
I have had previous successful sexual relationships, so I am trying a bunch of different things to see what she likes, but I'm afraid she's getting into her mind that she's bad at sex, and it will never be good. She goes absolutely crazy when I go down on her, so it's not like she is incapable of being aroused, just apparently not through intercourse. Any suggestions on how I could keep her excited about doing it?
