CaptFinnBad
Senior Don Juan
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- Dec 14, 2021
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Started dating/seeing what's out there after a 3 year toxic relationship. Lots of interest from women / options.
I started to date this woman exclusively for a few months. Attraction , s3x, connection, safety, intimacy, game, all sky high with her.
But my provider qualities in her eyes are lacking.
She's been vocal about it, truthfully it's a genuine criticism . It mostly stems in me needing to expand my business (which I'm actually focusing on anyways), and I'm already on that path.
But yeah her hamster has been running a bit wild on this one.
I know she's consulted her counsel of women with it and they given her the verdict, "he's just using you or that's not right" , mostly for me not investing financially in lots of extravagant dates when money is tight for me.
The most bizarre one is when I took her out to explore gardens and a quaint village on a weekend and I was buying food for us at a bakery , whilst I was waiting for food to be warmed I asked her to go next door and grab us a couple of bottles of cola to go with the food (as they didn't sell it there).
She took this one to the counsel of woman and they are pretty disgusted by me doing this?
I personally don't really understand it or the issue but go figure.
Comes toy this weekend with the intention to break up. We agree it would be nice. End up having the best weekend and mind blowing s3x , I get the impression I'm the best she's ever had.
She still breaks up because of comparability issues, as in she's highlighted her needs and haven't seen me take action.
I'm really cool about it.
It's only been a few months so it's world hasn't ended or anything. We talk about being friends e.t.c.
How we both want that, it would be amazing to still do stuff together, I also suggest I want to go away a weekend this summer, she's eager, especially somewhere with a hot tub.
I video called her earlier to see she got home safe, see how she's doing e.t.c. She told me talked to her girlfriend about us being friends (they advised against it), but it's something she wants to do.
She was also struggling to spit something out, I eventually got it out of her but she told me a part of her wants us to keep having s3x / keeps on thinking that's a possibility for us.
To be fair I don't mind this outcome at all. It gives me a bit more time to focus on my business and other stuff. Also the freedom to explore things with other women.
But yeah, I get the impression she's just plated herself.
Bit bizarre really. 100% certain there isn't another guy in the picture.
My guess is she want to keep me around until she can find a more provider type guy , also petrified in losing me.
She was in tears on the weekend that she's going to be so mad when I get my **** together financially and so ridiculously jealous of the women I end up with when I do.
Obviously working on my business is a given it definitely needs to be done, my house needs a bit polishing also on the to-do list.
Advice regarding this woman is what I'm looking for. I'm am totally okay it turning it into friends with benefits. It actually sounds like a really good outcome.
How do I approach this ? I do care about her a LOT, she's a bit of an idiot plating herself in my mind but she's a really good person with the best intentions at heart.
So I want that casual relationship with her but do it in a healthy way that's good for us both.
That's what I really need advice on.
Also how to transition change communication as she's definitely in love with me.
I started to date this woman exclusively for a few months. Attraction , s3x, connection, safety, intimacy, game, all sky high with her.
But my provider qualities in her eyes are lacking.
She's been vocal about it, truthfully it's a genuine criticism . It mostly stems in me needing to expand my business (which I'm actually focusing on anyways), and I'm already on that path.
But yeah her hamster has been running a bit wild on this one.
I know she's consulted her counsel of women with it and they given her the verdict, "he's just using you or that's not right" , mostly for me not investing financially in lots of extravagant dates when money is tight for me.
The most bizarre one is when I took her out to explore gardens and a quaint village on a weekend and I was buying food for us at a bakery , whilst I was waiting for food to be warmed I asked her to go next door and grab us a couple of bottles of cola to go with the food (as they didn't sell it there).
She took this one to the counsel of woman and they are pretty disgusted by me doing this?
I personally don't really understand it or the issue but go figure.
Comes toy this weekend with the intention to break up. We agree it would be nice. End up having the best weekend and mind blowing s3x , I get the impression I'm the best she's ever had.
She still breaks up because of comparability issues, as in she's highlighted her needs and haven't seen me take action.
I'm really cool about it.
It's only been a few months so it's world hasn't ended or anything. We talk about being friends e.t.c.
How we both want that, it would be amazing to still do stuff together, I also suggest I want to go away a weekend this summer, she's eager, especially somewhere with a hot tub.
I video called her earlier to see she got home safe, see how she's doing e.t.c. She told me talked to her girlfriend about us being friends (they advised against it), but it's something she wants to do.
She was also struggling to spit something out, I eventually got it out of her but she told me a part of her wants us to keep having s3x / keeps on thinking that's a possibility for us.
To be fair I don't mind this outcome at all. It gives me a bit more time to focus on my business and other stuff. Also the freedom to explore things with other women.
But yeah, I get the impression she's just plated herself.
Bit bizarre really. 100% certain there isn't another guy in the picture.
My guess is she want to keep me around until she can find a more provider type guy , also petrified in losing me.
She was in tears on the weekend that she's going to be so mad when I get my **** together financially and so ridiculously jealous of the women I end up with when I do.
Obviously working on my business is a given it definitely needs to be done, my house needs a bit polishing also on the to-do list.
Advice regarding this woman is what I'm looking for. I'm am totally okay it turning it into friends with benefits. It actually sounds like a really good outcome.
How do I approach this ? I do care about her a LOT, she's a bit of an idiot plating herself in my mind but she's a really good person with the best intentions at heart.
So I want that casual relationship with her but do it in a healthy way that's good for us both.
That's what I really need advice on.
Also how to transition change communication as she's definitely in love with me.
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