"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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johncrawford

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Got this girls e-mail address from the gym yesterday,but I can't read her writing!
I know one of the guys at the gym so he can sort it out!
Should I ask him to get her number as well?
I give her my moblie number but I think I wrote one of the numbers down wrong!

I was supposed to see her a month ago but never did because she is always busy!
I aked her what happened, she said she had not been to the gym since then.
I said to her did I play it too cool before - she said "yes" I think I came across as not wanting her enough!

I said to her,do you still want to go a for a drink,if you don't just let me,it's o.k if you don't.She said she still wanted to!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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banGbro

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Easy, next time you see her talk to her. See how it feels. If all is well ask her out, tell her you were going to write an email but cant read her hand writing, tell her you both write similar but you have trouble understanding hers. Ask her what shes doing after gym.


The email you use anyway to get her number, and that you use to setup date. So why not do it directly and present her with an expected patters, urh, something different. Date after gym is different, but talk to her, you want to be flexible.


See it is to your advantage because now you have something to talk to her about.
 

Thomas94305

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You're being a bit nervous. Do your best to calm down. The worst this would go is that you have to wait to catch her next time, that's not "devastating".

I wouldn't ask anyone else for her phone number, caz she'll wonder how you got it, it'd spook her. If someone got my number from a third party, I wouldn't like it.

At this point, I'd either ask the person you know at the gym to help you with the email, or just wait until you bump into her again.

In the long run, work on approaching more women, or running the DJ boot camp. It will help you to get over your fears, and just relax around women. That's attractive.
 

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Thomas94305 said:
You're being a bit nervous. Do your best to calm down. The worst this would go is that you have to wait to catch her next time, that's not "devastating".

I wouldn't ask anyone else for her phone number, caz she'll wonder how you got it, it'd spook her. If someone got my number from a third party, I wouldn't like it.

At this point, I'd either ask the person you know at the gym to help you with the email, or just wait until you bump into her again.

In the long run, work on approaching more women, or running the DJ boot camp. It will help you to get over your fears, and just relax around women. That's attractive.
I got the right e-mail address now from my buddy luke :up:
 
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