CAPSLOCK BANDIT
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Jul 29, 2020
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"My cats woke me up, they kept me up all night" I respond, telling her to close the bedroom door then, she goes "No."
"I can't eat cheese, it gives me stomach problems" proceeds to eat cheese and have said stomach problems, shows all sorts of resistance to addressing this meaningfully, then complains about stomach problems for the next 3 days.
Other than these dysfunctional complaints I can't provide an answer for, everything is really great actually, but I'm trying to get out of my own head with this... Like most women bring me actionable complaints, oil change, repairs, time or money...
Is this the "red flag" I'm making it out to be in my own head? My instinct is to rebuff her and tell her "If I can't directly help, I kinda don't wanna hear about it" but then you get this attitude of malicious compliance I imagine where the communication just breaks down.
Like I don't mind listening but the same freaking complaints day in and day out is driving me absolutely bonkers, like wtf do you want to hear?
One other thing, she has this habit of never saying "No", unless in service of continuing the complaints and I've had women approach me with this indecisiveness, with the "maybe" but she's using "maybe" to avoid having hard conversations, so then we are in this ambiguous space where I can't just lead the interaction like I would when faced with regular indecisiveness.
As time goes on, this situation is becoming less and less appealing, it's not just general indecision, there's a real effort on her part to keep things veiled and obscured, not defined so she can continue to voice these same complaints over and over, it feels like I'm being gas lit.
"I can't eat cheese, it gives me stomach problems" proceeds to eat cheese and have said stomach problems, shows all sorts of resistance to addressing this meaningfully, then complains about stomach problems for the next 3 days.
Other than these dysfunctional complaints I can't provide an answer for, everything is really great actually, but I'm trying to get out of my own head with this... Like most women bring me actionable complaints, oil change, repairs, time or money...
Is this the "red flag" I'm making it out to be in my own head? My instinct is to rebuff her and tell her "If I can't directly help, I kinda don't wanna hear about it" but then you get this attitude of malicious compliance I imagine where the communication just breaks down.
Like I don't mind listening but the same freaking complaints day in and day out is driving me absolutely bonkers, like wtf do you want to hear?
One other thing, she has this habit of never saying "No", unless in service of continuing the complaints and I've had women approach me with this indecisiveness, with the "maybe" but she's using "maybe" to avoid having hard conversations, so then we are in this ambiguous space where I can't just lead the interaction like I would when faced with regular indecisiveness.
As time goes on, this situation is becoming less and less appealing, it's not just general indecision, there's a real effort on her part to keep things veiled and obscured, not defined so she can continue to voice these same complaints over and over, it feels like I'm being gas lit.
