You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
you mean symmetry? how? try lifting weight with both sides of your body at the same time, that will help keep you symmetrical. it's not rocket science.zerocelcius said:I use it for def. I started off with Ten reps. Than moved up by ten. It helps to keep semitry.
hmmm... I found a post of yours from a year or so ago indicating just how skinny you are. You don't need isometrics. You need to eat. A lot. And lift heavy weights. See WBA's Idiot's Guide, and don't ask about worthless training methods again until you've put his advice into practice for 6 months or so.Freddy1 said:I dont know if anyone have heard about the old "Charles Atlas" body building method lessons. Does that stuff works? I was wondering if it could be used as a subsitute for traditional weights or maybe as an add on.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Thanks dude. Yeah I gotta eat like a horse.Throttle said:hmmm... I found a post of yours from a year or so ago indicating just how skinny you are. You don't need isometrics. You need to eat. A lot. And lift heavy weights. See WBA's Idiot's Guide, and don't ask about worthless training methods again until you've put his advice into practice for 6 months or so.
Throttle said:you mean symmetry? how? try lifting weight with both sides of your body at the same time, that will help keep you symmetrical. it's not rocket science.
I didn't. For all I know you have more experience lifting weights than I do. However I did talk to you as though you do not know how to spell, and as though you don't know anything about how to maintain symmetry. 2-handed lifts maintain as much symmetry as your genetics will allow. Isometrics give you (at best) a "pump" which has nothing to do with muscle mass.zerocelcius said:Don't talk to me like I don't know how to Lift F*&*&^ Weights!!
Yea I spelt SYMMETRY wrong, $hit happens. Look at my pic and tell me I don't know $hit about Symmetry.Throttle said:I didn't. For all I know you have more experience lifting weights than I do. However I did talk to you as though you do not know how to spell, and as though you don't know anything about how to maintain symmetry. 2-handed lifts maintain as much symmetry as your genetics will allow. Isometrics give you (at best) a "pump" which has nothing to do with muscle mass.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
according to your pic you know naff all about weight lifting but a thing or two about starving yourself.zerocelcius said:Yea I spelt SYMMETRY wrong, $hit happens. Look at my pic and tell me I don't know $hit about Symmetry.
Not really sure what you are saying " naff all " If that is nothing at all, than you are wrong!Warboss Alex said:according to your pic you know naff all about weight lifting but a thing or two about starving yourself.
you've got a good lean base to start with - listen to Throttle instead of being hostile and you'll learn how to put on some nice mass without losing too much of your 'def'.
I never said you didn't know what you were talking about, but Throttle came at me like that. Why you defended him I will never know he is the one talking like an a$$hole. I have done things that are difficult that you will never know about 'cause I don't brag or wine. Yea I never put on 40lbs of muscle but I did put on 20 over 4 years. I went from not being to walk from an accident to being able to full on sprint for 200Meters. You don't know what I have done.Warboss Alex said:Zero,
My comment was tongue-in-cheek, but since you got nasty, so will I.
Who gives a f-ck about your abs. The guy is asking how to gain muscle. You came on here asking how to 'bulk', now you're dishing out advice?
I've also been told I should strip. Who cares? I've also been told to go into competitive bodybuilding and powerlifting. Some people have asked me if I push trucks for a living. Others have asked me to be their personal trainer, offered me money for it. I didn't take it because it's not my career.
I do not like people who mouth off about having abs, so this applies to everyone: ANY FOOL CAN GET RIPPED. IT IS THE EASIEST THING IN THE WORLD. Get over your rippedness. ANYONE (and I mean anyone unless they're severely obese) can take 6-12 months and get down to the stripper level bodyfat.
You want to do something hard? Take that body you've got now, maintain the same level of conditioning (roughly) and add 40lbs of muscle to that frame. Then you'll be something I'll be impressed by - and you'll also realise how DIFFICULT it is to actually do that. You worked out from high school, you were in the army. Show me a guy who was obese and got down to 10% bodyfat and I'll be impressed. Show me a guy who went from 120 to 220 and kept his abs along the way, and I'll be impressed. Show me a guy who doubled his squat in a year and I'll be impressed.
I don't care that you've lost respect for me, quite frankly. You're another internet identity who can take my advice or leave it. But DON'T come on here being so full of yourself just because you got 9.7 on hot-or-not.. lol. I've seen the guys girls rate as 9's.. meh.
Am I calling you ugly? No. But you've not done anything DIFFICULT. You have a LOT to learn about muscle growth.. dieting? No, you know how to get conditioned. But putting some serious size on, is something you don't have a clue about.
We're all here to learn.. including myself.
Take a big, deep breath bro. I didn't come after anyone. Freddy asked for advice; I gave mine. You told me how I should / should not talk to you. I don't appreciate that, but you seem to need to vent, so go for it. You have some serious anger management issues to get this pissed off over an anonymous Internet message board.zerocelcius said:I never said you didn't know what you were talking about, but Throttle came at me like that.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
If that is how you meant it I read you wrong! Little guy complex I guess, spelling is a sore point.Throttle said:Take a big, deep breath bro. I didn't come after anyone. Freddy asked for advice; I gave mine. You told me how I should / should not talk to you. I don't appreciate that, but you seem to need to vent, so go for it. You have some serious anger management issues to get this pissed off over an anonymous Internet message board.
If you think WBA is "defending me" you haven't read this exchange very carefully. My words here need no defense; rather, WBA is pointing out that your aggressive self-promotion is out of line with your accomplishments. Fish through my posts over the last 2 months and you will notice that while I offer advice based on personal experience, but I don't brag about my accomplishments. That's not what I'm here for.
Now I've chastised you. I never chastised Freddy, and if I was perhaps a bit harsh, he thanked me for the advice. I think that speaks for itself.
Lastly, I never said anything about "moving air with weights" -- I told Freddy he should "move weight through space." If the distinction eludes you, I can't be bothered to explain it.
Dido!Warboss Alex said:Zero, we're all here to learn from each other and from experience.. I apologise for my outburst.
You want to bulk without losing definition? It's what I keep telling people to do. Massive food intake but also carb timing, cardio, high protein to keep metabolism high etc.. so your excesses are burned off while still getting in the right amount of nutrients to grow. Read the Idiot's Guide..