"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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dying professor surprisingly upbeat

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I heard about him on the radio. I think this is an incredible example of using your mind to reframe a situation. The mind is a powerful tool.
 

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I guess surprising only if you anticipate being bitter if you were handed a death sentence too. Me? I'd probably get mad or upset the moment I was told, maybe be peeved even a few hours afterwards. But for days, or until the day I actually died? No way! I would make the best of it, including being upbeat and positive.
 

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I think an important lesson to be learned from this is to ask ourselves how would we lives our lives if we were told that we only had a year to live.
 
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