"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Read more...

during sex, what actions/moves should be best AVOIDED - common beginner`s errors?

Latinoman

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 21, 2006
Messages
4,028
Reaction score
58
Many men make the mistake to believe they are all that without understanding one fact: women tend to be very quite when it comes to men’s bad performances or when men do things that women don’t truly like. They do that because they understand men’s pride.

I will tell you one thing based on the numerous women I have talked with (friends) or listened talking to my ex- or current girlfriend (their friends), or even listening to my ex- or current girlfriend talk about what their friends have said: most men suck in bed. Most men fail miserably when it comes to satisfying their partner. And many women either keep it to themselves or fake satisfaction because they either “like him”, “wants to give him a chance”, or “don’t want to hurt his feelings”.

I personally ask all my partners (if I’m with them more than once) that if I do something that creates discomfort or takes her rhythm away…to simply tell me. Otherwise, I would assume that what I’m doing is something that she likes.

I will tell you more…something that works with one woman might not work with another. So, a great lover must be like an explorer. He has to explore that body and learn and understand that body. I will tell you one thing: it takes more than one encounter to get it 100% right.

That’s why the likelihood of a man that is in successful long term relationships of being a greater lover than a man that has gone in 30 or 40 one-night-stands are very high. The reason is…because that man that has been with several long term relationship understand the “exploration method”, while the man that has being in a bunch of one-night-stands cannot possibly comprehend that.

Sadly, some of the greatest lovers tend to be men that were married and also cheated.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

Latinoman

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 21, 2006
Messages
4,028
Reaction score
58
One final point…I rarely make love. I typically fvck. Kind of introduce them into certain things (including spanking their butt, etc.). If they pull my hair and scratch me (and many have done that)…then that’s a signal to try something “harder”.
 

mrRuckus

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 14, 2005
Messages
4,382
Reaction score
85
Don't ignore her breasts. My gf told me lots of guys are like "wow you have large breasts" but then completely ignore them during sex. She said i'm the first guy she's been with to pay more than passing attention to them and she loves it.

Find out where her ****oris is. I've heard stories of guys performing oral where they completely ignore it. And don't count on too many women actually being forward enough to explain to you what they actually want. Pay attention and figure it out on your own.

Last but certainly not least. If you're dry humping a girl with both of your pants still on never ever ask her "am i inside you?" True story - happened to a girl i know.
 

mrRuckus

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 14, 2005
Messages
4,382
Reaction score
85
oh yeah... TALK to her. Encourage her. Tell her how sexy she looks going down on you... Girls are audial and will be turned on by a deep male voice. It'll also help get rid of thoughts in her head of "do i smell?" "does he like my breasts?" etc and let her concentrate on the feelings.

Her own mind is the most important sexual organ.
 

Latinoman

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 21, 2006
Messages
4,028
Reaction score
58
mrRuckus said:
Don't ignore her breasts. My gf told me lots of guys are like "wow you have large breasts" but then completely ignore them during sex. She said i'm the first guy she's been with to pay more than passing attention to them and she loves it.

Find out where her ****oris is. I've heard stories of guys performing oral where they completely ignore it. And don't count on too many women actually being forward enough to explain to you what they actually want. Pay attention and figure it out on your own.

Last but certainly not least. If you're dry humping a girl with both of your pants still on never ever ask her "am i inside you?" True story - happened to a girl i know.
Never mind.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

Read more...

Francisco d'Anconia

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 10, 2003
Messages
15,481
Reaction score
65
Location
Galt's Gulch
svarog said:
laughter is the biggest enemy of sex
How come? I always thought it was involuntary bowel movements.
 

far from average

Don Juan
Joined
Apr 22, 2006
Messages
71
Reaction score
1
Francisco d'Anconia said:
I agree with the disagreement.
LatinoMan, correct me if I'm wrong, but I think he's telling you guys not to just slap every woman's ass the first time you're with her. Generally, if she's into that stuff you should be able to tell, and after you get those signs you can work her into it, but you shouldn't just flip her over and start smacking her.

He's not telling you it's bad to do, he is telling you to be smart about it.
 

penkitten

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 14, 2001
Messages
8,256
Reaction score
236
Age
49
Location
at our house
dont try to be a big shot and pull out to try to shoot jizz in her mouth from a distance, loose your footing and accidently shoot jizz in her eye. that stuff burns and will get you talked about.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

Read more...

Top