"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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chris2for

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As the dumper, have you ever deleted your ex or someone that you weren't in a relationship with but really cared about a lot off social media? Why or why not?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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hockeyfreak79

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Yup, I've lost count over the years. Mostly pictures, there might be a couple. I give zero F's about the rest. Check-ins tags, whatever.

I rarely use it anymore and don't add prospects or plates.
 

chris2for

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Yup, I've lost count over the years. Mostly pictures, there might be a couple. I give zero F's about the rest. Check-ins tags, whatever.

I rarely use it anymore and don't add prospects or plates.
Hm. If you don't care about them anymore and she's gone NC as well then not why keep them on there?
 

LuckyStrike88

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Hm. If you don't care about them anymore and she's gone NC as well then not why keep them on there?
Keeping them around prevents you from moving onto others. If you are not getting out of it what you want it's not the right person for you, wasting your time keeping them around prevents the open space you need to let someone new in that does give you what you want.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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2Rocky

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Recent Ex, Yep, Unfriend, and Block....

Although I am FB friends with some past girlfriends just to remind myself how fat and homely they have become....

Had a woman who had approached me and been flirty who turned bitchy on me when I became available. Didn't even tell her she was banished, just blocked and unfriended her after she sent me a critical and insulting message. I don't deserve to be treated that way and I won't allow her to do that to me.

Block and unfriend also guards against the potential nasty message to people you actually care about. Cut off the branch before the Rot spreads.
 

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Yes. Hell, I'd go as far as ghosting my entire social media and creating a new one. That's what I did to my first ex. She has no idea what I'm up too. It was a romantic relationship as well.
 

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Depends how close you were. I have some past gfs on my FB and I add girls pretty often. If its mutually totally over and there is no baggage then I don't remove them. For serious ones and bad breakups or ones you or she needs time to get over, definitely block/unfriend her and unfriend her family and close friends.
 

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I delete all failed dates and exes from all platforms. Better a score of 0 than negative 10, unless you're on the pga tour.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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SmooveMooves

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Favorite plate disappeared on me out of nowhere. Fūcked me up royally. I found myself checking her FB every few hours for answers. Never got any leads. I became obsessed. It wasn't until I deleted her off social media I was able to obtain peace. Women are fickle, however, nothing is a quite the mindfūck then thinking you have something going and then suddenly radio silence.
 

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the only social media a real player don juan uses is snapchat and thats real talk. fb is phaggotry, twitter will not get you laid typically, IG good for business and sliding in the DM but the final solution is snapchat
 
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