"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DUMPED over a month ago - Cant seem to shake this sense of loss

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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BeTheChange

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Yeah.... OP this is all you really need.

You don't know what the hell your talking about.A natural blonde haired blue eyed BPD with a thick ass is the best of both worlds.Quit crying on the internets about life and for Christ's sake get over your oneitis.
Who's that? Troll.
 

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Fvck the girl. It was never about her. The goal is about YOU. She was simply a stepping stone toward this greater consciousness, a necessary precedent to incite your greatness.

The goal is to be a 10 ... across the board. Looks. Money. Status. (And eventually to higher aspirations). You do this not for the attainment of hot, shapely women but rather in accordance with your calling and design.

What does it mean to be a 10? It means to be the very best in your corporeal (and other) attributes and take daily steps toward that goal. Take a piece of paper and write down what the very best means to you. Then write down and take the daily actions that will get you there.

Simple isn't it?

As for the girl: years back I dated an ex-Playboy model. My physical type in every way: high and full cheekbones; long beautiful dark hair down to her waist; big oval eyes; perfect complexion, skin tone, teeth and jawline; full temples with high arched eyebrows; D-cups with a 24 inch waist; bubble butt, toned body (arms, legs, back) ... the epitome of physical perfection. One day it ended. And for some time, I didn't find a girl as physically appealing. Until I met a girl 10 years younger than her and almost half my age, now 23 years old, of similar physicality

As long as you're a man who will continually date younger, you will always find better (assuming you are also getting better).

Though, that's not the greater picture and it's quite easy to get lost in the convolution, that is, this maze of fruitless thinking.

So what is this greater picture?

Be the best my friend.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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