"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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dumped me,she wants me back now what??

Thespiritofaman

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first of all, i am a young man in high school new to the site. Anyway long story short, i have been dating this girl whom i love for over a year, and a few days ago she dumped me. we have been kind of drifting apart for some time, but she ended it. She said she wanted a break. i straight up told her that i am not interested in a break and that she was either my girlfriend or nobody to me. I also told her to not communicate with me in anyway EVER again, unless it was to try to be my girl again. So we haven't talked for only a few days, and today i randomly got a text from her saying she loves me and regrets sending that text. i had no idea she would cave in in this short of time, because she is very competitive and likes to act strong. I love her and will eventually take her back, but when and how should i go about it? i don't want to be so easy to get and i don't want to seem like i want her all that bad. should i text her the next day, and if so what should i say or at least how should i go about it? any help would be much appreciated. also i really want her, but im not gonna be a whipped little wuss about it, and i am prepared if things do not work out.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Mr_Maximus

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Fair enough.

Since she regretted it so quickly.

Just tell her that she is either staying or gone and the next time she pulls a stunt like this on you, you will hold her to her decision.

Text her whenever you want.
 

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You did it right by stating your expectations and then walking away. No begging, no pleading, etc. Doesn't sound like your a whipped wuss to me. Take her back or don't, but on your terms. And you have the right attitude; if it works out, great. If not, that's okay too.
 

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Eh - most importantly, you handled it well. However, I don't think it's going to last. You've been drifting apart and she panicked when she saw you were willing to walk. This spike in interest is more than likely temporary and will cool off when she has you again.

I wouldn't hop back into this. Make her fight for you and then fight some more or else you'll be back here again in no time. Atleast right now you hold the power and haven't lost your dignity. Keep this B!tch on Ice in order to maintain it.
 

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She liked a next guys ...figured she is not compatible with him so she runs back.

Went and slept with a guy ...he either sucked or he left her hanging after ..so she ran back.

I say make an example out of her ...make her regret it and earn some more respect. Don't rub it in her face but simply make your point and leave.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Alvafe

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I would laugh and say you lost you chance, get the next girl, adn serious ending in a text? even less reason to even consider to take her back.

but all in all, yeah you handled it pretty well
 

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Go fvck her up the ass and cvm all over her face... Then never speak to her again.
 

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Thespiritofaman said:
first of all, i am a young man in high school new to the site. Anyway long story short, i have been dating this girl whom i love for over a year, and a few days ago she dumped me. we have been kind of drifting apart for some time, but she ended it. She said she wanted a break. i straight up told her that i am not interested in a break and that she was either my girlfriend or nobody to me. I also told her to not communicate with me in anyway EVER again, unless it was to try to be my girl again. So we haven't talked for only a few days, and today i randomly got a text from her saying she loves me and regrets sending that text. i had no idea she would cave in in this short of time, because she is very competitive and likes to act strong. I love her and will eventually take her back, but when and how should i go about it? i don't want to be so easy to get and i don't want to seem like i want her all that bad. should i text her the next day, and if so what should i say or at least how should i go about it? any help would be much appreciated. also i really want her, but im not gonna be a whipped little wuss about it, and i am prepared if things do not work out.
I see a rock solid foundation in the making here. Well done. Dgwizdal is right, overwhelmingly strong possibility of it falling apart again, probably sooner than later too. I'd tell her "sorry, you blew your only chance. Should have thought about it a little more carefully. Fun while it lasted", something like that, and be on my way to learning how to get really good with women as a newly single guy, but I understand that your emotions are probably very raw at the moment, and so chances are that the temptation to get back with her will be great. Either path will endow you with a great deal of knowledge.
 

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Tell her you have to think about it and that you'll let her know in 3 to 4 days time.
 
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